no support

[MissCaliRed]

I am 6 weeks and my best friend doesn't support me and I have no friends to talk to because she was my bff more like a sister to me because I don't have any family. I been crying every 5 min. She thinks I should get an abortion but I can't do it. It has haunted me in my dreams. I want to keep my baby. She said if I keep it she wants nothing to do with me ..... That hurts me to my.soul.....what kind of friend says that? She said she feels that way because she cares about me. Should I talk to her one more time or let her go as a friend? I would never say that to anyone let alone someone I call a sister.

[cher01]

A true friend does not give ultimatum but encourages you to think hard and come to your decision then will stick with your decision. She wil not stop with your baby only but will try to force you yo do stuff you don't want through the emotional blackmail. She has already dismissed tout boyfriend and thinks bad of him for no reason. You don't need such pple in life. Its better not to have a friend than have someone who makes you miserable.

[shellie409]

Wow :o im.sorry! She really has to right to give you an ultimatum of its my friendship or the baby :( it sounds like you've already made up your mind about keeping the baby which is good try to take a breath and dont listen to her try and make decisions about your life there's lots of help for women nowadays :) i know its not the same but i support you!! And give you hugs!!!

[Kylie0001]

a person who classifies themself as a friend wouldnt suggest a heart breaking opion.. they would stick around..
its gd u found out now as there are us on here that will support you..

[NatFox]

She is not your friend... And it is good that you found that out now. When your pregnancy progresses and specially when you have your baby, you will make lots of new friends who will understand you so much better as they will be in the same situation. And of course you will never feel alone when that baby arrives. Good luck.

[MissCaliRed]

Thanks you ladies give great advice. Yes I think I need to distance my self. I'm so stressed out I'm scared I might have a miscarriage. She doesn't like my boyfriend and said he will be a bad influence on the baby. She called me stupid and said I'm setting my self up for failure by going thru with this. I'm keeping my baby whether he's in my life or not. I am a strong educated successful woman. I know I can do this....

Thanks again ladies

[jen_ortiz]

Where's the babies father ?? What does he think about the situation?? I want u to kno that becoming a mother has been the best thing I've ever done in my life !!!!! No friend would ever tell u to get an abortion or she's no longer ur friend !!! What if the tables were turned ?? Would u tell her to get an abortion ?? What do u want to do ???

[tomorrow264]

That isn't a real friend if she's threatening to dump you as a friend if you won't get an abortion. That sounds like she is very controlling. I know it hurts because I've recently lost who I thought to be my best friend but it will get better. Every time someone leaves our lives it makes room for someone new to enter.

[RockRose]

Even if she were trying to be supportive of you,  it's unlikely your close friendship would last.  She's in a different phase of her life,  and even friends with the best of intentions drift completely apart when one has a baby and the other doesn't.

Your whole life will change -it's probably time to start thinking about making friends with other mothers,  who you will have a lot in common with and nothing in common with your current friend.

[Michele, Katy, TX]

You nailed it by saying what kind of a friend would say that?  A real one wouldn't.  A real one would love your baby as a niece or nephew...if she is like a sister.  She would love it because it's a part of you.  I would never choose a "friend" over my child.  To me, there isn't a choice to be made.  SHE made her choice, sounds like to me.

[insidebeauty25]

Unfortunatly life always has its downs. I know how lonely it can get but please be strong. Stand up for your choices and dont care about your friends thoughts. I know its hard. If you need support try and find a support group in your area for pregnant women you will get lots of help and support. Good luck and hang in there.

[New24888]

A friend and sister would offer advice but support you end choice. I would have a really hard time staying friends with some who is reacting as she is.

[Flickan]

I'm so sorry you are going through that. :( what a rough situation to be in. Ultimately it is your choice and your life. The choice is yours. Either she is going to be a friend and support you no matter what your decision and her personal opinion is. Or, you guys are going to go your separate ways. As hard as it may be, which I understand and have been there.....granted we are all just online, but we are here for you and will support you. Feel free to personally message me. Hope you can work things out.