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single/unmarried ftms
my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and I always knew that I wanted a life with him.before we got pregnant, I knew I loved him Unconditionally but after becoming pregnant he has become even more attentive and affectionate, doing everything for me from going shopping to doing the dishes, rubbing my back or feet, to buying me tea in the morning. I cant wait to marry him but we've decided to wait until after the baby for financial reasons, mostly. I also dobt want people to think we are marrying just for the baby.
Seeing how good he is with me makes me think of how blessed i am. To all of the strong women that are going this journey independently, it is going to be tough but you can absolutely do it. I was raised by a single mom and know how difficult it can be. My mother is a fantastic, selfless woman who always put her children first.
Whether you are going into this journey with or without a significant other, you have all the strength within you do be a great mom.
Seeing how good he is with me makes me think of how blessed i am. To all of the strong women that are going this journey independently, it is going to be tough but you can absolutely do it. I was raised by a single mom and know how difficult it can be. My mother is a fantastic, selfless woman who always put her children first.
Whether you are going into this journey with or without a significant other, you have all the strength within you do be a great mom.
I just kinda wanted to say to peaches..that ive been there hun.. Things sound very raw for you and I truly do understand..keep your chin up hunnie :)
My husband and I got married when our son was 8 1/2 months because we wanted to. If you want to wait to get married, do it. There's Nothing wrong with that at all. Good luck mamma
I think you should married him before your baby born , who cares what other people say about it . He became responsible since the day he sings marriage with you .. no government have to help you. Leave that for those mommy who have no husband and those mom to be who are struggling With such a bad economy. Hope you do a mature happy choice .
Happily married here for 3 years on the 9th! We got married when our son was 4 months old. Actually in the middle of the night we packed up and drove straight thru to Vegas to do it! It was cheap, easy, fun, and so worth it. It nice to see people in happy caring relationships and not just cheating bfs. I feel so bad for the girls that have to go thru so much while stressing about their lives changing becoming mommies. They will be great mommies married or not but hopefully one day they can find love with a man that can treat them right.
Thank you for your responses (except peaches, who ill ptay for peace for) and for understanding what I meant. I wish you all the best of luck on your journies and congratulations on yout bundles of joy.
This post is SUCH a breath of fresh air! I read through these to help with medical information but end up reading and posting on the ones that have to do with social issues.
You can get the feeling that there are no babies being born to loving couples, and that there is no hope of passing on the middle class values of home and family and being self sufficient.
Your post was lovely.
And honestly, I so admire people who marry "for the baby". i only know 4 couples like that that I can think of and all 4 are still happily married with lovely families. Those couples who find out they're pregnant and say we need to do this for the baby tend to be willing to sacrifice and care for each other. I think you should get married and not worry about having some enormous expensive party. The marriage counts, the party doesn't really.
You can get the feeling that there are no babies being born to loving couples, and that there is no hope of passing on the middle class values of home and family and being self sufficient.
Your post was lovely.
And honestly, I so admire people who marry "for the baby". i only know 4 couples like that that I can think of and all 4 are still happily married with lovely families. Those couples who find out they're pregnant and say we need to do this for the baby tend to be willing to sacrifice and care for each other. I think you should get married and not worry about having some enormous expensive party. The marriage counts, the party doesn't really.
I used to be a single mom to my son for the first 3 yrs of his life, until I met my wonderful husband who has been there everyday for my son since we became a couple. I just wanted to say that even though I was doing it alone raising my son the best that I knew how, I always knew that I would find someone who would love me and my son. There were naysayers telling me but what if u don't? What if u never get married? To me I never for a second believed in the what if! I always just knew that one day we would meet and God drew my husband and I together. This is what I can say to others who r single, just know that u will be with someone who is worthwhile and it will happen. Goodluck and just know!!
Well im kinda in the middle I have a bf who treats me ok but we have some issues so not sure yet whats gonna happen between us. And to peaches that was uncalled for. I understand you're mad you have to go through this but there's always other guys out there so just be patient and im sure someone better will come along for you
I married to the love of my life. He treats me soo good we were together 4 yrs before I w as pregnant and decided to wait after baby was born to get married (best decision in my opinion) but I am just happy to see someone else happy in a relationship. Most of the time I see how people are miserable and it saddens me.
@ julybaby1987 I want to applaud you for writing this post. I always tell my fiancé how much I admire the single moms going through pregnancy alone, although I don't know that feeling because I have him by my side it made me appreciate all the moms doing it by themselves. To all the moms that are single don't feel bad children are a blessing sometimes the relationship just doesn't work out the way it was planned, but love the kids with all your might. @peaches0329 I believe you misunderstood her post, I was raise by a single mother as well & when I man leaves the woman he also leaves the kids even if he's there part time. So don't tell her she doesn't know what it's like she doesn't need man to walk out on her to know that feeling (again). Happy journey to all the moms to be :)
@peaches0329 there's really no need to take out your own issues on someone else. She was simply posting about her happiness (which yes other people are allowed to enjoy without miserable people like you being bitchy) and sending positivity to those doing it alone and has a great point in the fact you don't need a man to make u a great or loving mum
Peaches no need to be downright rude.
Really? Until ur a single mom u have no clue. Right now ur in heaven w ur boyfriend. But until ur know the pain of giving someone all of ur n they walk out no calls, money, no breaks from ur kids, no quality time, no birthdays. U can't begin to understand. How a man ur husband can just lace u n 3 and a half kids n never look back.
Thankyou for this post..ive been a single mum almost 8 years and sadly I get a bit and envious of people who are in happy relationships..i feel sometimes like things are being rubbed in my face (in reality i font think anyone would ever do this..just my horrible side lol) and then if friends moan about their partners i equally think..atleast he stayed with u etc.. its lovely to see someone appreciate what they have and also have an understanding for those of us on our own..your mum did a good job :)
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