Advice on Gender Reveal to Absent Parent

[pregowithbaby_2]

I'm 17weeks5days..My ex left when I was 2 months. We planned the baby..when I thought that I was unable to conceive..he went to all of my OB/GYN appointments and was very supportive. After trying for 6 months I became pregnant and a month afterward I lost my job and a month after losing my job he left. He has failed to contact me to check on the babies progress. Would I be selfish if I don't contact him to let him know the sex of the baby? I feel he doesn't care anymore so why bother...

[xcited_mommy2b]

I'm in the same situation and was wondering the same question. Thanks for asking this I too have my answer...

[shysmom87]

You don't need him honey...you can do this! Hes obviously too selfish and worried about himself to think or care about anyone else. I would feel the same way and wouldn't even bother.

[pregowithbaby_2]

The sad thing about it is that he is 27 and has 2 daughters and he treats their mom like crap and she still chases him..I refuse to stoop so low...my pride won't let me and I don't have time.

[outlawmomma]

I wouldn't.  My son who is now 12 years old, well his biological father left me when I was 3 months. I lost contact with him because I knew he didn't care. He didn't give two thoughts about me an the baby he put n my belly. I did try one more time though right after my son was born. I met up with my ex at a gas station an interduced him to my son... still no reaction. So I said to hell with him. My son deserves better than that douch anyway an we moved on. I never told him aft bout his biological father but I plan to someday. It's been 12 years an I still don't know how to tell him but I know I need to. But to answer your question, if your ex wants to know, he will make an effort aft bout if he doesnt, then he doesn't deserve you and your baby.

[yenio]

No not at all.. If he doesnt try contacting you why should you even bother telling him anything. Have you tried contacting him? I feel like i would have done the same thing not tell him. My boys' father doesnt bother asking how they are or if they are doing good in school or doesnt even know when they get sick, so i just dont bother telling him anything.

[pregowithbaby_2]

Thanks Ladies &@mommabear2015 That's exactly what I plan to do I just wanted to get someone else's point of view.

[mommabear2015]

No I wouldn't bother. !!! That's ridiculous of him. So don't tell him crap. Personally I wouldn't even tell.him when your in labor I'd just wait and get a court order for child support and let him get the news when he gets papers in the mail from your lawyer. He.does t.sound mature enough to be a father.

[petesake49ers]

Heck no don't contact him. He's given up the right to know anything about that baby.