Am I wrong? RANT!

[Geesha]

I finally sent a text to my boyfriend of 8 years little female friend he been talking to for the last 2 weeks. He knew her in 8th grade. However he wont tell her he is even with someone and says it dont matter because she dont live in this state and their just friends. I dont care if he has a female friend but whats the big deal. She is single. Well has been separated For 8 years. I then see a message today (mind you im due 6-24) that she is requesting vaction time for June 5th -15th. And will be flying here. I saw that and snapped and sent her this text.....
"This is Wayne's live in pregnant girlfriend of 8 years. Seems your such good friends I figured I would say HI! So, hello and so sorry if this is a shock to you. Hope it don't ruin your GOOD friendship."

Am I wrong? Also he kept threatening me if I did send her a message telling her before he told her that he would leave well so be it in my eyes. There's no reason for him not to tell her. I wasn't even asking him to tell her I was pregnant just tell him that you've been with somebody living with them for the last 8 years that's all. I didn't want him to get into all the details of who I am but I'm pregnant this that the other but just let her know and be honest. That way he's not leaving the door open or leading her on. Like I said I don't care if he has a female friend I just think that if that friend Is such your good friend that you not seen since 8th grade then why can't you just tell her the truth that you're taken. she told you she was single and separated perfect opportunity to tell her well I've been with somebody last 8 years. There is a 2 hour time difference and she gets off work at 4pm 6pm my time. I wonder how he going to act when he finds out i actually sent it.

[14yearslater]

I so agree with jaaked. Your calling her and texting her honestly it makes you look crazy. If you really wanted to know something I think you should have called and never texted woman to woman. Then you text her twice and saw that she called your bf and they talked you got mad and sent a nasty text. She could be yelling the truth she could be lying who knows but she told you that's she's not a threat and because she wouldn't fight with you your even more pissed. She owes you nothing she don't know you and she's not sleeping with you.  I think your bf is the one that needs to answer any and an del questions you have asking or attacking her is going to do what. At the end of the day he is who you should have an issue with and not her.

[jaaked]

I feel like you're putting way too much time into her. She doesn't owe you anything.  Not even respect bc SHE ISN'T IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU! If you can't invest that same animosity towards your partner (the true culprit) that you vested in her then leave it alone!

[LyricOlivia]

i feek like you shouldn't have said anything to her it's him that your in a relationship with you and her have nothing to talk about just because you told her about yourself don't mean she gon stop talking to him that's not her job to stop its your bf job to put a stop to it if he don't tell her stop calling or texting she will continue to do do you shouldn't be mad at her you should be pissed at him it's about respect if you say something hurts you or u don't like something he should respect that plus by you texting her let's her know stuff not rright n your relationship and you don't need another ***** in yo business

[azmommy711]

She just wants to **** him. She doesn't care about your relationship.Shes just one of those dirty girls that gets a kick out of messing with taken men. If I were u I'd give him a choice. Its either her, or u&baby. Let him know that he can't be talking to her anymore and its upsetting u to the point of feeling sick to ur stomache. Make him feel bad. That's the only way u will know that he cares more about u than this "friend"

[thenewmrs_b]

Been there, done that... this ***** and my husbands work was working my husband hard core and I called him out on it and he said she was happy with her fiance and they were just great friends... she even asked him to bring in my WEDDING ALBUM soshe could see it!!! Then at the cChristmas party last Dec. (Two months after my wedding and two days after we found out I was pregnant with number 2) she got drunk and kissed him... I know my husband well enough that something was wrong so I found her email and talked to her she was so nice and sweet saying I was a lucky woman and my daughter was beautiful... then I looked at her Fb and she was posting **** that was suspicious and I called my husband out and he confessed... then I emailed her again calling her out and she went all crazy ***** on me and threatenedto call the cops etc... ddon't trust women... they are dirty sneaky stupid evil people (not all bit many) good luck mama but don't trust her kind words

[dswifey28]

Ok just my opinion but that is bull ****!! Honestly, if u invest 8 years in someone AND you are pregnant, there is no reason for him to even have a female friend that dosent know about u!! My husband and i have been together for 8 years and im pregnant with our 4th and he dosent talk to any females!! I dont have male friends and he dont have female friends!! Its a respect thing!! We are happy together and dont feel the nees to have single friends of the opposite sex especially ones that dont know we are together!! If they were such "good friends" she should know about u!! He is shady!! Id set him straight or kick his *** to the curb!!

[MrsRuiz7911]

Girl don't fall for that phony understanding like she cares. Who knows what he has told her men will do whatever they want regardless. Honestly keep an eye or two on them because i honestly feel like I'm going through this with you . Lol i feel she had little regard for what you have to say . She may feel if he didn't tell her about you then you may not be as important as you think and may not feel threatened by your presence .

[ross1112]

Honestly, I think that if she was planning on doing something with him, she will still do it even if u told her who u were, so I think they might do it, my first boyfriend and I before I got pregnant and before he was with somebody, used to talk about us having sex and all the stuff we wanted to do to each other, but now we just talk about our babies because his girlfriend is pregnant with twins, unless u don't let them see each other, but I think they gonna do something when they get together, sorry if I upset u

[Tori8914]

Sounds sus to me.... Why is she calling him for so long and why isn't he telling you about it
If it is all above board why can't he tell U and involve U to make U feel more comfortable with the relationship (friendship) he has with another women
Being friends since school has nothing to do with the equation when deception is involved
He should understand that at this stage in your life he needs to be more understanding and caring

[Amy1830]

I completely agree with Snowdin. There is way more going on here. There's no reason at all that your bf should be keeping you a secret unless he wants her to think he's single and why would he want that unless he's planning on being unfaithful to you? You said he should have at least told her that, but if he didn't say you were pregnant you wouldn't be mad? Why?! He should be telling everyone the exciting news of becoming a father! He should be happy and proud to be by your side and havin a baby with you! And if they are such good "friends" then she would have been one of the first to know. The fact that he threatened you if you "told her first" is a blatant admittance to the fact that he cares waaaaaaaaaay to much about this girl knowing he is already taken. I understand some women don't care about female friends, but I do and this is exactly why. Because they are either having sex, or are only friends because one of them wants to have sex and the other doesn't. Why is your bf talking to this girl for 4 hours daily? What is he getting from talking to her that he can't get from you? Please do not doubt yourself or your feelings. Don't let him play mind games with you. This man is dishonest and he has bad intentions and its up to you if you're going to allow this to go on! Be strong!

[Chatt1215]

Your better then me. I would have called not text ,  but a least you got a responds from her. I would call her today. She should understand being a women and pregnant that you are not cool with the issue. Your man needs to man up.  Even if it is innocent.  You should call her. I think it would settle you down more if you spoke women to women. I hope it works out. All relationships have there ups and down. I'm not going to say leave him because I had something like this happen 7years ago with my know husband and I was pregnant then. He was talking to this girl and I found out, I got her number and called to see what was up? Well she didn't know about, but claims they were just friends. I let her know that I didn't approve of them talking since he hadn't bother to mention me, I even ended talking to her boyfriend who called me back later being noisy. I went off on him and he was mad, but I held my ground and he knew I wasn't playing. Make sure if he does get mad you don't tell him I'm sorry for anything.  He is wrong not you. Gook luck.

[rprlove]

Theyre obviously both tryna play you for a fool, i for one would not even put up with it.. He'd get a good a s s kicking from me lol.

[originalgommers]

Thats so confusing!! Why is she so calm? I would be like woah ive overstepped, i need to tell this man we cant be friends. Not oh well shes upset ill just carry on as normal x

[Geesha]

UPDATE.....
Ok well I just got so upset while he was at work and saw that she called by looking at the phones call log online. She apparently did not even mention mmy text. So i resent it again. I told him once again how i felt and he just did not listen to my point of view. I dont care like i said just want her to know after that i cant control if she pursuEs him. I feel he was leaving the doors open and keeping her in the dark. Almost 2 weeks of talking and he should of said something. Anything! Just say your with someone. Hell not even that im pregnant. Anyway i got so mad I left before he came home. I also got so mad because she continued talking to him and did not mention my text. He had no clue i texted her. So i resent the message. Then after i left a few hours later i look again at call logs online. He at this point is not even willing to understand my point. So i got so furious i sent her a nasty text which i feel bad for stooping to that level of nasty. (I just rather do things with sarcasm and phony class lol)
This is what i sent when i snapped.....

"Nasty ***** causing problems. I am pregnant have been with this man for 8 years. Stay away. Cause he wanted to hide me. He caused this. If it was nothing he would of told you. I will not tolerate another B coming around having no respect for someone who is involved."

Finally around midnight I get a text from her. Mind you she was on phone with him another 1hr 30mins. (A total of 4hrs today) this is what she replied.....

"don't get yourself upset your having a baby and thats most important wayne and I have been friends since we were kids I'm sorry if you're miss understanding the situation please take care of yourself ..."

I dont know what to think???

I still think i should be with when she comes here and they meet for lunch or whatever.  

[azmommy711]

To answer your question, yup He's in the wrong. 1 for talking to another girl like he's some single guy?! 2 he's putting her first! And u already know why he can't tell her he's taken. That will make him look bad in her eyes and she might not sleep with him when she comes into town. Duh.

[MrsRuiz7911]

And he is wrong and if you let her know the deal and she continues then they are both wrong your the victim she is a Homewrecker and he is a Fool

[MrsRuiz7911]

I went through this same situation only i thankfully  was NOT pregnant. And he winded up leaving on v day while i was showering to see her After me and him getting into several arguments about him and her talking 24/7  and texting for weeks before v day . I find out he cheated on me after 6 years of being together and for a while she thought we were roommates until i made it clear. However i stayed with him nothing change except she moved and he found someone else to play the game with . I got tired and left. He just recently left me alone 3 years later when he found out i was pregnant with my now husband . Don't let it go any further otherwise you will find yourself in a tough position

[mckaylas_momma1018]

I would have (and have) done the same thing.... hubby was deployed for the 1st time January - August 2009 and while deployed was talking to his ex because he thought I was cheating... there was a period of 2 months that I was busy with wedding stuff (bridal showers, bachelorette parties, planning, cake tasting, etc.) with 3 different brides plus working 30-40 hours a week and going to school full time... plus he was in Japan and there is an 18 hr time difference and I wasnt always up at 3 or 4am in the morning when he could talk... well anyways... he was talking to HER during those few months that I wasnt easy to get a hold of (on facebook) and I happened to find all these messages after he got home (September) right after our 1 year anniversary. ...I felt hurt, betrayed and alone and when I picked him up 1.5 hrs later he could tell I had been crying... rather than get pissed for going through his Facebook account he was very apologetic and felt like crap... (this was also AFTER we decided to try to get pregnant with our first child too)...I told him if he ever talked to her again I was done and he better block her... he went home and blocked her that day... and as far as I know hasnt talked to her again... she created a new Facebook and tried messaging him and adding him after my daughter was born.. I messaged her and told her to leave my husband and family alone.. he never responded to her

[kat730]

I just went through the same thing&did the same thing so you go girl!!

[Isabella_grace]

I would have done the same. You are not wrong at all. He should have told her. And seems like there is a reason he dont want herto find out about you.  I would have fliped

[jaaked]

He's up to no good

[ross1112]

Did she text u back?

[bkiddo35]

By Reading your story I got pissed .. once I had a bf like that... fortunately we had no kids... things started like that and when I realized, the girl who he was talking to was pregnant with his baby.... please, keep us posted! And yeh, you did the right thing. Please, stick to your guns!!!

[Kelzy89]

Wow! I definitely would have sent the same thing. It's pretty suss. Hope you get a response xxx