Am I wrong? RANT!

[Geesha]

I finally sent a text to my boyfriend of 8 years little female friend he been talking to for the last 2 weeks. He knew her in 8th grade. However he wont tell her he is even with someone and says it dont matter because she dont live in this state and their just friends. I dont care if he has a female friend but whats the big deal. She is single. Well has been separated For 8 years. I then see a message today (mind you im due 6-24) that she is requesting vaction time for June 5th -15th. And will be flying here. I saw that and snapped and sent her this text.....
"This is Wayne's live in pregnant girlfriend of 8 years. Seems your such good friends I figured I would say HI! So, hello and so sorry if this is a shock to you. Hope it don't ruin your GOOD friendship."

Am I wrong? Also he kept threatening me if I did send her a message telling her before he told her that he would leave well so be it in my eyes. There's no reason for him not to tell her. I wasn't even asking him to tell her I was pregnant just tell him that you've been with somebody living with them for the last 8 years that's all. I didn't want him to get into all the details of who I am but I'm pregnant this that the other but just let her know and be honest. That way he's not leaving the door open or leading her on. Like I said I don't care if he has a female friend I just think that if that friend Is such your good friend that you not seen since 8th grade then why can't you just tell her the truth that you're taken. she told you she was single and separated perfect opportunity to tell her well I've been with somebody last 8 years. There is a 2 hour time difference and she gets off work at 4pm 6pm my time. I wonder how he going to act when he finds out i actually sent it.

[Chatt1215]

I would have done the same thing.  He should have told her, and since he didn't then you did what you had to do.  If it was nothing to it then so be it. Have no regrets.  

[Schmalzy]

I would have done the exact same thing.  Why Wouldnt he tell her that he was with you?  Is he not proud to be With you?  I would be very upset too.

[Lola_Dec5th]

I probably would have done the same thing honestly.  There is no reason for him to keep you and your soon to be family a secret.  If he decides to be upset and leave he was just waiting for a reason to pull the trigger. I mean there could be many reasons why he hasn't mentioned it but once he learned this relationship made you uncomfortable he should have done his part to make a point to show you that there is nothing to worry about. Good luck I personally think you did the right thing.

[ross1112]

I liked that text, and you're right, why can't he tell her he's with somebody? I did the same thing with a female friend of my husband and she works at a bar that he used to go when he was single, she was texting him and he used to erased the messages, so I told her that why is she texting my husband? And if her partner approved of her texting other man, and she told me she was single, so I told her that my husband has a wife and a child on the way and I appreciate if she stopped texting him, after that I haven't see any texts

[ross1112]

Ohh and can u tell us what she says lol, sorry, I'm very nosy lol

[mommylece]

Girl I do not blame you at all. In fact I think you were very nice to her and just letting her know. I don't think there is any reason for him to be upset about it.

[River_Melody]

I would have done the same thing. It seems to me if there was nothing for you to worry about he would have told her about you.

[Tyiesha87]

I would have done the same thing . It seems as though he may be hiding something about their friendship . I would think that she would be ecstatic to welcome his new baby . Keep your eyes close to that situation . Your actions were not wrong at all!!!

[leelee2287]

You are not wrong I would have done the same.

[coachsymons]

I think you handled it perfectly!

[Snowdin28]

Your boyfriend is being shady. I can't even count the number of red flags going up here. Your boyfriend is completely in the wrong here. There is ZERO justifiable reasons for him to be involved with this girl while keeping you a secret. I'm going to safely assume you've had your fair share of issues in this relationship and that your boyfriend likes to threaten leaving you often, therefore you feel defeated due to the belief he will actually leave you. I really hate to be the barrier of bad news but he is definatly up to no good with this girl and you aren't going to stop him. I was in this same situation many times with my ex before I left him. I hope you come to your senses and find that backbone and either change your tactic or change your address. Good luck.

[chisaac]

Yes indeed I'm on your side with that. You're text message was nice. Mine might not have been so nice lol

[Bigapplefamily]

You did the right thing! Let us know what she says!!

[kprince2]

Sounds like you did the right thing to me and very tactful. I have been there and done that before.  

[OctoberMommy2014]

much more classy than I would've handled it.. props to you mama!! lol

[Geesha]

Thank you.  It makes me feel so much better. I just feel so stuck right now it *****!! But i feel better knowing im not being crazy. I honestly dont care about female friends but how i caught this was him deleting a facebook message from her. Thank you so much. I have no one to sort my thoughts with about this.

[OctoberMommy2014]

the whole thing is shady, we don't have to tell you that, and no.. it's not about him having a female friend, it's how he's secluding this female friend.

it's strange & it's not right.. maybe he is/was leading her on so he could meet up with her without you knowing & she would just assume he was single?

I don't know.. ya'll need to have a serious talk though.. seems as though 8 years invested doesn't mean the same to him as it does you.

I wish you luck, keep us updated!!! ❤

[Amanda252011]

I dealt with the same thing. But I sent the female a message over fb. She was texting him telling him to store her number under a guys name.... She works with him to.  She still sends him messages and it pisses me off but they seem to be harmless so I let it go. He deleted his fb so thankful I don't have to worry about that.

[krysmichelle]

id be preparing myself for the single life if your live in bf of 8 years threatened to leave you if you told a girl he is communicating with your were pregnant that should be proof enough of his plans for you ....

[mitch_14]

Seems like your mad at her but he is the idiot he is playing both of you. Doesn't matter what you say to her if she doesn't know about you it's not her fault it's all on him and you are playing into his games. I never understand why people get mad at the other women when the man's the one in the wrong...

[mommylovedby4]

I would have done the same thing you did. If he leaves you because you let his "friend" know he is not single then you are better off without him! Shame on him for trying to keep you, his pregnant girlfriend a secret. If he says you are in the wrong show him all of these messages supporting what you did. I'll keep you in my prayers and hopefully he comes to his senses.

[ajrain8386]

You did the right thing. I say drop him and his secretive life. You and your baby don't need that stress or drama.

[SMTracy]

I think the situation was inappropriate and would have done the same thing. I would also let my partner know he was inconsiderate and what he did was hurtful and that if he can't understand that then you are better off raising your baby yourself without a selfish partner. Good luck.

[GigiBella]

You handled the situation well..just ***** hes being a douche bag especially while ur pregnant.