Just curious!....single moms?

[Ana_K_09]

I am currently 26 weeks pregnant, I am beyond excited about my baby boy due in a few months but my ex cheated on me a week after we found out Im pregnant and haven't really talked a whole lot. As you can imagine we've talked and argued and talked and argued and he wants to be involved but gets extremely mad when I bring up child support or getting a paper by the court simply stating our time with the baby, etc.
I just want to know if anybody else has been thru something similar and how you are dealing with it??

[Ohh_Baby]

Ive been there done that. Go through the courts. If he's going to be an active father as he claims then it shouldn't be any problems. Guy see it as retaliation, but really its for your own security. & i'd start as early as possible bc mine took a while.

[happimom2]

FYI......FILE FOR FULL CUSTODY

[happimom2]

Been there and done that very simular situation. Go with the courts no matter what he promises. My daughter is now 7 and we dont see or hear from him. He tried to talk me out of it,but i was too smart

[SaSa28]

the court is the way to go if you want to do that. I'm a single mom and of soon to be 4 kids. the court will recognize him as dad and will do the calculation for child suport.  your baby dady dose not get to choose if he pays or not, he also dose not get to choose how much. though don't be surprised..  if its not enough for daycare and everything  the courts break up the cost acording to earnings of each parent. the courts also do not like the baby to be seperated from the mother for any amount of time before the age of 2 years. so don't worry so much about the seperation or parenting time before then. if dady wants to see baby he will have to do so while you are there. another matter you should look into is gardianship of your child. if you and dady were not living together the whole pregnancy dady dose not have gardianship of the baby. the courts like to see children with 2 gardians so get a gardian appointed soon, before you take dady to court, unless you want dady to have gardianship. good luck hun

[Ana_K_09]

Thats crazy! I want to go to court because the way he's talking he wants to give me about $300 a month but thats not even going to cover daycare...not only that but he's already putting up a fight because I explained to him I didnt think it was such a good idea if he took the baby for the day for Christmas considering he's going to be a little over a month old and I want to breastfeed. :\

[babyjensen13]

Yea and the court is the way to go I waited a year trying to be nice he always said he would help with money and never did he has no visitation rights and he don't want them but I get my money for sure