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sex issues
Hi there ladies. Im 25 and this is my first pregnancy. Me and hubby got married in august and found out im pregnant middle october. Now, we havent had a great, active sex life before we got married since I have "issues", its painful for me and I just dont like it. Now my dr told me its because my vaginal opening is very small. I might not even give birth naturally. Now with the pregnancy Im even less in the mood for sex and its working on hubbys nerves. Anyone else having this problem and advice? Xxx
I know how you feel. I got burned very badly as a child and due to scarring it is very painful for me also. Before I got pregnant my husband and I were intimate maybe once a month with other activities in between. But since I've gotten pregnant we havent done anything for 5 months. Luckily he understands.
Me and my hubby would go at it every second we could since we met! 3 to5 times a day! But the last month it hurts so bad the baby is on a nerve and i have been having contractions. I feel bad cause we tried doing the other stuff like me helping him out but he just cant finish that way! So we have been fighting alot about this subject!
I had the same problem when I first got married. Sex hurt every time until I had first baby then it was fine...and now with 3rd pregnancy my libido is zero and its causing frustration on both ends. Last night hubby told me how frustrated he was and I've decided I would rather please him then have both of us miserable. I look at it this way...its 10 mins tops to make your man happy so why not? And there are many other ways than vaginally to please him..They say happy wife happy husband but I think it goes both ways ;) good luck!
What about pleasuring each other in other ways...? Apart from your issue, sexual arousal can be 99% mental. Pregnancy complicates things, hormones and such, but it's always a good idea to try using your mind to get yourself aroused, and learn to take pleasure in stimulating your husband in other ways, and start exploring yourself and your own sexuality. Learn where your g spot is, and get your husband to stimulate it. It might take hours, and feel unpleasantly like you have to pee, but once you learn to let go, it's one of the most intense orgasms you'll ever experience, and after it's easier to get there faster.
There's so much someone can say, but it sounds like you need to explore your sexuality, find comfort with it, and find what you like, that doesn't cause pain. Since you seem to have had problems before pregnancy, a sexual therapist will be really helpful to you.
Sexual frustration can wreak havoc on relationships.
There's so much someone can say, but it sounds like you need to explore your sexuality, find comfort with it, and find what you like, that doesn't cause pain. Since you seem to have had problems before pregnancy, a sexual therapist will be really helpful to you.
Sexual frustration can wreak havoc on relationships.
Oh yeah I'm 36 weeks now
I'm having the same, I got pregnant early on in our marriage so we didn't have too much practice in the sex area, but by the second trimester the sex was awesome! I don't know if it was because I was more sensitive due to pregnancy or what but anyway that season has passed, most days I'm so achy and sore I don't want my husband touching me at all. I'm 26 and the thought of having sex again just reminds me of pain. I'm hoping this phase will pass after I deliver. I feel like I'm depriving him.
Adding that i am 15weeks now
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