step kids

[sexiidiiva]

How do you feel about step kids being in your maternity pic. My boyfriend suggested his daughter be in our pic. But I told him no. I just think that is weird to me. We can take regular family pics together. I don't mind that but taking maternity pics with her just doesn't sit right with me. What is your opinion on this?

[NaomiJ]

I don't think it's wrong that you want to have this moment to yourself and your partner.  It's just like engagement photos,  the children don't necessarily have to be in the that picture. I have 2 step children and a daughter of my own. My plan is to take maternity pictures with me and my fiance and then include them in a couple so we can have at least 1 family picture while I'm pregnant.  It's completely your decision.  Good luck.  :)

[Johnna06]

I have a son and if my boyfriend told me he wouldn't be in the pics I would be highly upset! But you are entitled to your own feelings and opinion... Meet him half way and let her in them but choose to do more of a "family pic" pose.... That way she is still apart of the pictures but it's lot really any pics of her hands of your belly and etc!!! Good luck!!! I'm sure they will turn out great!!

[nbarrera1989]

Maternity pictures I would say no. But family pictures I wouldn't mind at all. I love my 8 year old step daughter so much and consider her my own,  but these pictures would be in regards to the pregnancy. But if you would like to,  just take a couple pictures to compromise :)

[Nov7thmommy]

Yeah I don't think u have to put her on the maternity pic, is completely different then family pics, just tell him that is 2 different things

[joannea81]

Sorry for the spelling people... silly phone :-)

[GigiBella]

If u guys agree then that's what matters.  It might be cute to have some with her a though.  Maybe not at the professional shoot but your bf can take some pics with her hands on your belly :) then both kids will have something special

[ilovebabya]

More then making him happy its a nice way to incorporate her so she doesn't feel left out or jealous of your new baby. Whifh naturally going tp get a lot of attention

[joannea81]

I have 2 step kids and my partner and I tried 2 keep them as involved ad possible but with clear boundaries from the start. We asked their opinions on names,  bedroom decor and also about how involved they wanted 2 be (they are a quite a bit older than my 1st baby and im now pregnant again) with my 2st baby we had photos with and without them (their idea and I was do proud of them for suggesting it) it will be the same this time round.
Not sure how old your step kid is but talk with them... They may surprise u with their suggestions
Hope it all goes ok

[ammljm]

I have step kids as well and I am married. I agree with u. In the long run its all up to u and what u want. If your doing family pics later on then its fine.

[Tammy_marie]

I agree with the above comments, have a couple of pics with her in it to make your man happy and make his
Little girl feel apart of your exiting new journey and then do the rest with just the two of you.. That way everyone's happy :) besides they could look really cute with her kissing your belly or putting her hands on there, at the end of the day it's going to be her little brother or sister and I bet she's very exited.. Kids are innocent.. There would be nothing weird to her and it would make your man happy :) good luck Hun! I had maternity pics taken and I loved them! Now my girls here it's nice to look at them and my huge belly! I miss it lol

[sexiidiiva]

I mean when I said no to him and suggested we take family pics after I have the baby with her included, He was fine with that. He wasn't mad at all

[ilovebabya]

You can do just a few with her in it as a compromise.  I understand you probly want the shoot to be about you but a fee shots with her in them won't take away from that.

[giraffe1020]

Do some with and some without? Settle it for both of you

[sexiidiiva]

Thanks everyone for the opinions!

[MamaMacMurtry]

Are you married to or in a committed, lifelong relationship with this man? If you are, I think you need to reconsider your point of view. Its one thing if you don't wish to have any children in your maternity pictures, but the fact that you said "if you decide to have another child by him I may consider having your first born in it or may not." That means you are intentionally excluding his daughter as an outsider in your family. It means that on some level, you don't think she belongs because she isn't "yours". When you make the choice to have a relationship with a man who has children, you make the choice to accept his children as part of your family. Its that feeling of exclusion that leads to "step monster" syndrome with children. If they feel like you don't want them or that you don't think of them as part if your family, they will develop resentment toward you and eventually act out because of it. I think you need to think about your relationship with your babydaddy's daughter & if you don't really have one yet, maybe its time you tried to fix that & reach out to her-make her feel like she's not an outsider, but an important part of your family. If you don't, keep in mind that his little girl was there before you & he may choose her over you if it comes to that. Obviously, he knows how to be a single dad.

[MrsAmySanchez]

If it was me id let her be in them

[sexiidiiva]

Just cuz I don't want her in our maternity pics doesn't mean I don't embrace her. Family pics are okay but just the maternity shoot is weird to me

[sexiidiiva]

But if it was my child and he preferred just me and him I'd be okay with it. And if I do decide to have another child by him. I may consider having my 1st born in it or I may not. But I don't think I'm being mean how other people suggest. It's just weird to me. Even if I wasn't in this situation it just doesn't sit right with me

[Dandi_2014]

It is only a picture, I would reconsider if I were you.

[2ndBabyDueFeb13th]

I dont think thats fair and it shouldnt be a "problem". Thats his blood daughter. Thats going to be your unborn childs blood sibling. Thats just the way it is when you are wihbsomeone with kids. If u cant fully accept and embrace their child then it might not work out in the long run. Just imagine if u already had a child from another relationship, would u want ur boyfriend to say ur baby cant be in the picture even if u wanted him too. It just seems a little petty and a bit selfish in my opinion.

[mog__x]

If you want it just you and your husband then that's understandable. Maternity pics and family portraits are two separate things.

[Looza_h]

i think its ok . . she`s part of ur family right ?  just think about it. .if this girl was ur daughter will u refuse to take picture with her?