unwanted advice

[aharrison87]

Has any Of you ladies had any advice from your husband's that just drive you crazy. I have the sweetest husband ever. but I am 8 months, miserable, tired, and baby kicks me all the time. I just have kinda been staying home. Now mind you none of my friends are pregnant and I understand that it's not that fun to hang with a prego person. Anyway so my hubby starts suggesting why dnt you do this or go here etc. Then he says well do you think if you stayed more active you would feel better. Errrr that made me mad. But I know he didn't mean to. Basically am I the only one this miserable and I know my hubby is trying to be helpful but Grrrr how do I politely tell him. Leave me alone just let me get threw these last few months and then I will be ok without hurting his feelings?

[snuffy26]

This sounds a lot like my husband too! Luckily he's also very verbal about the fact that his advice are just ideas and may not be helpful at all- he just wants to help me feel better so he makes suggestions. If he actually expected me to drop everything to heed his advice I'd be getting pretty sick of it. What i have done is just try to figure out what he can actually do that is helpful and being sure to tell him and be super appreciative of his efforts. If your husband really does just want to help he may just need some direction as to how he can help. I don't think it would hurt his feelings too much if you were like, "you know the advice isn't super helpful, but do you know what would be... " good luck! I know this a pretty sucky time for all of us and unwanted advice is the last thing any of us want to hear.

[specialmom]

Ha, that's the story of my life.  My husband can like bark advice at me and I am thinking, um, no way!!!!!!!!!!  but I look at him an smile and say "thanks, I'll think about that:"  

They ARE trying to help but often don't do any 'real' research and just throw ideas out there.  

Oh well, they try.  :>)

[koyama83]

Just tell him, "yes, babe, you're right, a body in motion stays in motion and that's a very good idea for after the baby comes. Right now he/she is so large in my body that it's uncomfortable and painful, as well as unusually draining for me to be really physical. " lol it's so funny how they don't have a clue how it feels to be stuffed with your guts up to your chin.... I'd suggest a thumb war as a shared physical activity hehehehe

[nonishy]

My husband just helps me with getting things I drop and taking me places when he gets off work. He knows I'm tired...I'm 32wks almost 33wks...He totally understands.
I was actually really tired about a month ago, taking naps in the middle of the day. And even going to bed at 5pm or 6pm. Which is very unusual for me, he said I should talk to the dr about it...but i didn't have to cause the next day the dr called me to tell me that I am anemic,  i had to switch my prenatal vitamins and get extra iron vitamines, this actually fixed my problem quite a bit.

[Baby_girl09]

I feel you. My husband & sister in law would give me unwanted advice. Why don't u walk there or do this or do that. I feel like screaming at them even though I know it's good when I do it. I know thry mean well, But I'm mostly exhaustedddd & want to be left alone, by myselff.. Anyways, now I have a break from both of them. Came to my parents house, will be here until the baby is born. I'm 32 weeks, mostly I just feel like being left alone.

[purpleom]

Though you may not like him for it now he is trying to help. It made s world of difference between my first 2 pregnancies the first I was on my butt a lot and miserable the second I was so active I barely had time to notice the pregnancy let alone be miserable. The more you do the better you will feel and their is the unwanted advice no one else will give you. Good luck.