L&D nurses

[Ashie8149]

Im sorry but labor and delivery nurses should be VERY kind and gentle and welcoming. I mean, they are first introduced to a woman when she is either in agonizing pain and extremely irritable or when she is worried something could be wrong/threatening her baby in which she is again very irritable. BUT i have unfortunately had two very bad experiences with two l&d nurses now to the point that i dont wanna go in (in fear of it being a false alarm) until im so certain its real that itll probably be time to push! My first "false alarm" i had a nurse say to me "well when you get pregnant it is a FORTY week commitment" and then later said "you do want to take this baby home with you dont you? So be glad this isnt the real thing" I WAS OVER 37 WEEKS!!! then the second time was not as bad but still after being told again my contractions had stopped with little progress made and i was being discharged i was slightly saddened as i was 38 weeks and thought i was finally going to meet my little guy the nurse told me i could "keep dreaming" about it being the big day... like why are these women not as sensitive as they should be! Why do they make us feel unwelcome unless the baby is already half hanging out our cootchies?! (Sorry not to be too graphic but come on!)
Id rather know im at the hospitsl in time to enjoy my delivery and possibly have a "false alarm" than to give birth in the back seat trying to get to the hospitsl! And they should be more understanding of that! Okay, rant over!

[callmemzc]

Wow. I think of I had a nurse like that I'd probably flip out too. I'm only 22wks right now. But from what I heard about my hospital choice. 1 has a simple lonely maternity ward. Doesn't offer much of the support system with nurses and doctors. And the 2nd hospital requires a social worker immediate after delivery... hmm. Smh. Unless there's an obvious reason to call dfs for a social worker to talk to a new mom I see no point in being bothered... ridiculous.  I'm sorry you ladies had so many issues I hope my delivery goes smooth. Otherwise my head might actually spin.

[lizzy_jo]

I'm sorry to hear that. In my county there are 2 hospitals and in 1 they are mean and are not respectful at all and in the other where I am going to give birth, they are so kind, loving, attentive, etc. I guess it all depends on the hospital and nurses..

[andreacaitlyn]

I know right when my water broke at 30 weeks with my son I had a nurse that walked in my room while I wAS going to the bathroom to pee (its what I wAS told by the doctor to do) and she yells what are you doing so I told her and she yells that I wAS going to kill my baby bc I got up and I said well how else am I going to pee and the doct. Told me I can walk to bathroom all I wanted so then when I have a contraction an say damn she starts yelling at me that I would not talk like that in her hospital well needless to say she never came back! I promise if I have any problems with one this time around it won't be pretty that woman better be glad I didn't choke her!

[powellbaby2]

I had a horriable nurse when I first got to the hospital she was younger then me which whatever but calling me "hun" left and right and would not listen to me I was about to punch her in her face lucky her shift was over shortly and the next nurse was nice but seriously I know what u mean!

[powellbaby2]

I had a honorable nurse when I first got to the hospital she was younger then me which whatever but calling me "hun" left and right and would not listen to me I was about to punch her in her face lucky her shift was overshirtly and the next nurse was nice but seriously I know what u mean!

[PeachesRM]

Yes they should be nicer but after the 100th labor or false labor it becomes routine to them.. So to them in there eyes they are being nice.. But at the same time not understand that some ppl feelings get hurt easily.. I wouldn't take it to heart.. If u feel like going to l&d 10x a day.. Go!! Only you can speak for your baby!! And if u feel like u are not being taken Seriously say it.. Most ppl just keep silent but I'm not one.. And I say whatever needs to be said (respectfully) but get the point accross... But it that dont work .. Let the ***** out of u... She's in there some where!!

[dodo91177]

Im sorry ur experience was so bad, perhaps u could ask to get a different nurse.. or maybe hire a doula to support u through it. Ive heared horrible stories about midwives pinching and verbally abuse women in labour, but then I also live in Sudan :-/