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what to do
I'm currently 34 weeks pregnant with my 5th baby. My first 4 kids were to my ex partner who was abusive and all he did was cheat on me. Iv been with my new partner for nearly 2 years now and this is our first child together. I found out from my 10 year old son today that every time he goes out with my son in the car or go for earns he's coming on to other women in the street saying look at the *** on that. And oh that one is well f##k able etc. My son has started peeing in coboards in his room and was terrified of telling me till I quizzed him about his behaviour then he eventually told me he's scared he will get hurt if I tell my partner I no what he's been doing. Do I confront my partner? he has done this before and when I asked him about it he said its all in my head. I'm totally confused to what to do. Any advice?
I really urge you to listen to these ladies, your child is truly being traumatized and no man on earth is worth that. Your kid cannot ever get his childhood back once it has gone by, and he deserves it to be happy, and you are the responsible party for his protection and support. Please take this seriously. It sounds like you have better kids than you do men, and in your shoes I would ask myself why I put up with that, before ever getting involved with anyone else. Peeing in the closet is a really bad sign, it means your kid is distressed and also afraid. Please take this totally seriously. You aren't just making bad choices that affect you, but you are making bad choices in men and the choices are hurting your kids.
I know is hard and u need him the most but think of your kids think of how much worse is going to be after the baby come...and not only your life but your kids life is traumatised
Leave. Now! And don't look back. Been there and made the wrong decision for too long
If hes doing that in front of your child then hes doing WORSE behind your back. Your son is traumatized and needs you to protect him. Make sure u get ur son therapy and/or checked out by doctor. Peeing is often a sign of child abuse. If u do nothing then your son will never trust or respect u again. Leave or tell that jerk to leave.
Yea I would leave too. 1st of all you being disrespectful and cheating the. You have the nerve to do it I front of my child. And like you said he has do e it before so hey looks like he will do it again. If your relationship is more stressful then happy the whats the point!
Then, despite being pregnant by him, I would seriously consider leaving. You should not be somewhere that causes your children distress, they are your first priority and have no other adult to take care of them but you. Secondarily, your guy sounds like a jerk. But that is not as important as clearly modeling to your children that it is possible to have a healthy relationship with someone who is not a cheater. So far, all they have seen is you having relationships with guys who are cheaters (or near cheaters). Better they see you being autonomous and happy on your own, than grow up thinking the man can be an a s s h. and the woman just has to accommodate and suck it up.
No not at all
Are you financially dependent on this guy?
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