Not really a question, more of a rant, but if anyone has any advice I'll listen :-).
It's mainly my grandmother that is driving me crazy. I don't even know where to start, but she is completely self centered, possessive (if that's what you'd call it), intrusive and I don't even know what else.
She's always been this way but until 2 1/2 years ago she had my grandfather to tell her when to back off, but then he passed away and she is completely unbearable.
I'm a stay at home mom and I don't often leave my daughter with anyone, and my mom and Gram get mad at me about it,and jealous if I leave her with anyone else (like my husbands family). They won't admit it, but if she spends any time with anyone else (alone or with me) I'll get phone calls or emails begging me to let them spend time with her. I wouldn't have a problem with that except that they drive me nuts. Most of the time they won't respect my rules, and because of them my daughter often ends up getting in trouble for doing things she knows she's not allowed to do because she knows they will let her (even if I said not to). Or if I tell them not to do something with her or let her do something, they'll argue with me and say oh well what if we just did it this way? Or what if we just don't for a little bit? I hate when my kid talks back to me like that, and they're just teaching her how!
My grandmother lives less than 5 minutes away and excepts to be able to show up at my house for "playtime" with my daughter whenever she wants. If I answer the phone and tell her no because whatever reason, she comes anyway, and if I don't answer the phone she shows up anyway. The only way to avoid it is to literally leave my house and hide at a friend's house.
I'm 35 weeks pregnant and when I am home and not out running errands, I don't want to be at home entertaining. I'm trying to get my house ready for a new baby and when I'm not busy doing that I just want to relax with my daughter. Today I got an email saying she expects to be able to spend at least an hour a week with her because she doesn't see her as much as she wants. Well that would be fine if she knew what an hour was, UT every time she comes for a "quick" visit, she stays 4, 5 or 6! She stays and invites herself for supper, and then spoon feeds my daughter (who doesn't need spoon fed like a baby at 4 years old). I once told her my daughter was sick and we were going to bed early and she came back anyway and curled up in MY bed with my daughter and I!!!!! If I say I'm going somewhere, she asks what time and then will come back until that time and not leave until she sees me buckle my daughter into her carseat and I've started the car!
I'm a very independent person and lots of people tell me I'm being selfish but it's just so much more than that. I just want her to respect me and understand that I'm just not the type of person that likes having people around all the time, especially when I have stuff to do!
Now I'm scared to death to have this baby because it's only going to get worse with him here. Like I said, before my grandfather passed he would tell her to back off that we needed time alone. Or when they did come to visit he would stay for an hour or 2 and then "remind" her that they had been there long enough and that it was time to go. I really don't think I'm going to be able to handle this much longer. I've tried to explain to her as nicely as possible but she just gets offended and gets mad at me and says well so and so gets to see her more than me, or she lays some sort of guilt trip (she is the QUEEN of guilt trips) about my grandfather......
Anyways, sorry this was so long, and if you've stuck through reading this much, maybe you have some sort of advice..... If not thanks for reading and letting me vent!!