Traveling?!?!?!?

[drmwvrjean]

Hello, ladies!!

Hey, I had a quick question....dh just found out he has a class reunion at the very end of July.  I am due 3 wks. from the reunion date and he really wants to go.  the trip would be about 1,000 miles.  we are arguing because i have told him it's too close to my due date to be traveling that far, but that he was more than welcome to go, just without me....he is throwing a fit and does not think it's a big deal for me to be traveling, etc.  what do you guys think?!?

thanks for your input!!  have a great evening!!  :)

[Dani711]

I think when it comes closer to the time they will see how crazy the idea was.  DH worries about me already in church with the kneeling and standing since it is just a bit uncomfortable now...I can't imagine him actaully trying to haul me around in a car that close to my due date.  After seeing the u/s, this whole pregnancy has become so exciting and real to him...he doesn't even like me running up the stairs because it shakes the baby LOL!  I guess time will tell...

[SoCalTricia]

I can't believe your husband ignores your wishes like that and expects you to travel at eight months pg! I had a trip planned for a whole year, and ended up getting pregnant. I was seven months at the time of the trip, and my MD wouldn't let us drive (it was only six hours). We ended up flying, but I was pretty uncomfortable the whole time. Ended up my son came 3.5 weeks early, which isn't all that uncommon. What if you went into labor on the road? The car broke down and you were stuck in some podunk town and went into labor? I mean, really, it's selfish and stupid for him to put you AND the baby at risk like that. Wow.

Tricia

[YvetteY]

Geez!  Too bad you aren't flying!   You definitely wouldn't be allowed on the plane at 36 weeks.   That's like 2 or 3 days in the car each way!!!   At least two days!!  That's going to be very hard on you.   I thought for sure you were considering flying .   What if you get in a bad car accident??  If I were you I'd get a note from my OB stating it's not a good idea to travel that much in a car!!  

[drmwvrjean]

good morning, ladies!

yeah, we would be driving, not flying!!  i have told him that i tend to dilate early...like a month early and i would hate for a long trip like that to send me into early labor!!  with my son, i was dilated to a 5 for about 3 wks. and the same with my daughter.  i am afraid that this is going to turn into an "epic" battle!!  lol  i guess some men just don't get it...at least i talked to my ob and he is on my side...he is going to tell dh at my next appointment at the beginning of april, and maybe that will help since that visit will also be telling us the sex of the little peanut!?!

anywho, thanks for all your great advice and support, have a great day!!  :)

[cure65roses]

I say don't go, and shame on your hubby if he goes (j/k.)  Maybe he doesn't realize that babies can and do actually come before their due dates, all the time.  I'd hate for him to miss it, that's all.  =)  Doubt an airline would let you fly anyway.

[Angelface1980]

I think that it's a crazy idea - travelling so close to your due date, not everyone makes it to 40 weeks. I think that it's quite selfish to expect you to travel that far and so late on. You'd be uncomfortable for a start, not to mention tired and expecting labour to start at any moment and how could you relax and enjoy yourself anyway. It's ok for the husbands to say but they're not the one's that are carrying the babies around and feeling like we do!! It's obviously your decision but I certainly wouldn't do it. I'm sure family / friends will understand.

[YvetteY]

Are you traveling by car or by plane.  I think if you are so many months a long they won't even let you on the plane - check with the airlines.  Maybe play it by ear.   You really could go anytime at that point.  I guess you could see how far dilated you are at that point or see if you're having any problems.  However, that's quite some time away and anything could be happening that month. You could be confined home to bedrest for all you know.   You couldn't even really agree to anything until you were really closer to that date.  

I bet they wouldn't let you on the plane, however.  They won't let you on a cruise ship.  I know this for sure.  

As for me and my DH....all of our travel plans are coming to a halt come august.  I told him get whatever he wants done out of the way between now and end of july...because come August...we're just hanging out at home or rather in town locally.

[blueeyedtabbycat]

That is a long way to go for a reunion....................I say NOPE! Driving that late in pregnancy would be very uncomfortable and I really dont think the airlines would even let someone that far along fly. I agree with tiredbuthappy, bring him along to your doctors appointment and make sure he listens when they tell you no:)

[Dani711]

HA!  DH says the same thing...just have the baby in Colorado.  He really doesn't want the baby born in Idaho as it is...he even talked about driving to Montana to have it.  I am pretty sure I want the baby born with the dr. I know!  Oh, if you can the office ahead of time and get your dr. on your side.  I got a diff dr. when I asked about traveling and he is like the guy from the clear eyes commercial...old and mono tone, and said "we have to by law say not to go, but some women do travel"  Now that didn't help my arguement at all!!!!!!!!  

[drmwvrjean]

thanks, ladies!!  :)

dani~ i think our husbands should go to the wedding and the reunion TOGETHER!!  lol  we kept "discussing" this subject through dinner with friends last night and he says, "well if you have to have the baby in oregon, you have the baby there, they have really good hospitals"  (we live in montana)  i told him i did not wish to have the baby anywhere but home with MY doctor and the hospital that WE chose.  he's already been on the net making reservations, etc.  uggghhh....lol   anywho, tired, i am going to bring this up at my next ob appointment.  thanks again for the advice!!  have a great day everyone!!

[tiredbuthappy]

too close to your due date!
If he doesn't believe you, ask your doctor (make sure he's there to hear the response!)

i flew at 34 weeks last time. My doctor said flying up until the end of 35 weeks should be OK. It was an hour flight, and i don't think i would've tolerated any longer (and that was at 34 weeks, not 37). And boy was I swollen by the time I got there!
Good thing I didn't fly any later... i had to have my baby at 36 weeks. Too much can happen that late in a pregnancy.

[Dani711]

I think I am in exactley the same position as you.  There is a wedding about a 12 hour drive away on July 10, I am due July 29th.  I told him that I think I will be miserable going and to just go without me.  He wont go without me and does not understand how hard it is going to be.  I posted this question on a babies forum where they were all due in three weeks time and asked them how they would feel about traveling if they had to go then.  You should have heard their responses!  They all said how they didn't even want to get in a car for a 20 min ride.  I showed DH their replies, but he still keeps telling people we will be there.  My dr. didn't advise traveling that late, but said some women do it...which didn't help my arguement.  Now we are playing it by ear.  Of course I would love to go...but it is going to really depend on how things go closer to the date.  We were able to explain that there was no way to give a definite RSVP yet and they understood...it is his family LOL!
To answer your question...I think it is a big deal!