Pregnant & Alone:-(

[breonsun]

Hello ladies and congrats on the good news!  I just found out that I was pregnant on Dec. 10, 2011 and my childs father left me on Dec. 13th.  Although I feel blessed to have such a wonderful gift growing inside of me; I'm also depressed and lonely.  This will be my second child, my only daughter is 7 and I suffered from a miscarriage of twins three years ago.  I was beginning to think that I couldn't get pregnant any longer due to trying since the lost of my last pregnancy, so the news that I got on 12/10/11 made me so happy.  I just don't want to do this alone...I wish that my man was more understanding.  His reason for leaving is due to me being emotional, crying and having mood swings.  I tried to assure him that it would get better and asked that he try to be patient and understanding that my hormones and body are going through changes that I can't control.  He would only say that he was tired of seeing me crying and he couldn't take it any longer.  I'm so upset that he would leave me, my 7 year old and our unborn...I can't do this by myself...I'm feeling a little depressed.  I found out that he is already seeing another woman and I really can't believe that he would move on so fast! I need support, that's why I joined this site. I hope that this site and the women who's taking this journey with me until Aug. 2012 will help to heal my broken heart.

[riaa0815]

I understand. This is my first child and the minute I told my boyfriend I was pregnant I knew he was scared. He tried to be there with me for weeks but then he said that he couldn't put up with my emotions, mood swings, anger. I told him it would happen while pregnant, he said he could deal with it but when push came to shove he didn't. Im almost 9 weeks and he has tried to hurt me and my child twice since I been pregnant. I called it off for good with him yesterday because its not just about me anymore its about my child. Sometimes I feel like crying and I wish I had him back because the thought of doing this alone kills me but at the end of the day I have to do what's best for my child. But trust me when I say that one day you, I and every other single mother will find a man that loves us and our child more than we could ever imagine!

[breonsun]

Thank you ladies...although I don't know you personally, I love you all for being so comforting. May God bless you with a lifetime of happiness and good health. I will work hard on not taking blame, thank you:)

[greatexpectations2012]

It isn't your fault and he doesn't deserve you. You deserve better.

[Gordi23]

Im So Sorry! Ill have you in my prayers. Stay strong! Ive been through a third trimester lost, and i know a miscarriage hurts just a bad. Please dont blame urself for wat happened.

[Morrisfamily2012]

I'm sorry to hear this. Don't blame yourself though. I'm sure stress has nothing to do with it. Most of the time m/c in the.first trimester are from chromasonal defects, or tubals. I have been fighting on and off my whole pregnancy with my bf, and have no signs of a m/c. Just don't feel guilty. This wasn't your fault.

[amy8702]

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. Please don't blame yourself. First trimester miscarriages are common and most times have nothing to do with what the mother did/didnt do.

[breonsun]

*****UPDATE*****

Hi ladies, just wanted to give you all an update. I'm very sad to announce that I lost my baby on Christmas day. I feel terrible because I keep thinking that I would still have my baby if I wasn't allowing myself to stress, worry, cry and argue with my ex. I will probably carry this guilt with me for life! So ladies, if you are going through losing a man during pregnancy, be strong and try to find a happy place. Your baby needs you!

I pray that you all have happy, healthy babies and I'm looking foward to seeing pics! Sorry to deliver such bad news...please say a prayer for me.

[DianaRE]

I understand im preg with my second child my husband n I seperated on thurs I cant stop crying and cant get over the fact that he wanted this child as much as I did and even though I told him I was scared to do it myself rasing a nada baby bymyself since the begging he still left me alone sad. I know wat ur feeling im sorry but keep ur head up

[Gordi23]

You r def not alone. Ive experienced the same during my first pregnancy, bc of the same excuses. Even though its gonna be difficult cuz feelings and hormones are involved, u will persevere. Focus on u, ur daughter and ur unborn and stay positive. U will get thru it as a stronger women. U deserve better. Im Sorry this happened to u, but think of it as a learning experience and show him u can do bad all on ur own. A good man will come along one day

[moodye247]

Some shady men try to turn the fault on other reasonslike like your mood swings thats just a cover that he moved on to someone else. Its his character flaw not yours. Your baby is Gods blessing to you to keep you strongand focus on whats great about life. just pick yourself up and stay calm for your baby growth. A good man will find you when you least expect it,just keep positive.

[PrincessOfCanaan]

You are not alone like amy8702 said you have us!!!! MSG me when ever u need someone to talk to :) this is also my second baby!!!!

[amy8702]

Congrats but i'm so sorry to hear that you're alone.. well, you're not anymore! you have us! to lean on, vent to even have a mood swing with we don't mind.. If he can't take you at your worst he doesnt deserve you at your best.. stay strong hun!