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[augboy18]

Ok so my husband's mom is trying to name our first child(boy) and she said since his grandma named him she should get to name ours and so I told her no because that was her decision to let her mother name kyle and so it's my decision on what we name our son and so me and my husband chose a name and it's Aiden Blaze Ballantyne and she said no his name is Ryker Eagan or she doesn't want anything to do with him and that crushed my husband what should I do I don't want to name my son Ryker Eagan at all and anyway she claims that my son is not my husband's I and 19 years old and this is really stressful on me my husband any advice?

[AnnieBrooke]

Agree with Liske, and also -- if she REALLY thought the child was not from your husband, why would she be going through such outrageous contortions to name him?  She's not just being a brat, she is being illogical.  

Please tell your husband not to be crushed, grandmas want grandkids, and she will come around.  But for sure neither of you should cave into the threats, it will give her the idea that any time she wants something, all she has to do is threaten and accuse.  You don't want to deal with THAT for the whole rest of the time she is on this earth.  

Good luck, sweetheart, your MIL just being juvenile and will come around.  (Just like a kid.)

[Liske]

I think too the threat she made is just a childish way to get what she wants, and it's very unlikely she'll folllow through, after all it is her first grandson. And if she really doesn't believe it is your husband's she wouldn't be like this about the náme of the child, but the child itself, so don't let that get to you either, she's just throwing a childish tantrum. And like with a child you wait till she calms down a bit, explain why you will NOT do what she wants just because she wants it, and that her threats hurt your and your husband's feelings and are not appreciated by either one of you. And that as a granny she should love her grandchild with all her heart as he will love her unconditionally (remind her what she'd loose if she'd follow through with her threat) even if you decide to call him Tinkywinky (a joke and make her see it could be much worse). Make sure you and your husband are on one line on this and show that to her too. And it will probably help if you can make her feel important to your little family, and she is part of it, and that your little guy will need her to spoil him behind his parent's backs (that's what granny's do!). This whole tantrum might just be cause she feels a little left out...

[Erica0815]

Don't feel bad name him what you guys like at the end of the day she will come around my mother in law doesn't like our sons name also she was the first one to comment on it which was rude but oh well it is what it is and I defended my sons name. Stand your ground don't do it just to please her

[AnnieBrooke]

I would just assume she was temporarily cuckoo when she made the threat to have nothing to do with the baby, and move on with your lives.  Don't let her manipulate your husband that way or it's just going to be the first of many times she will do it.  Name your baby what you choose.  She may have chosen to concede the naming decision to someone else, but it does not mean you have to, and her throwing a babyish tantrum and putting out a threat she clearly has no intention of following through with is simply immature.

[char3rdtry]

Ewww I say good ridance. I wouldn't say anything to her ever again.

[Nikki148]

HOW DARE SHE EVEN THINK SHE HAS THAT RIGHT! U name ur son whatever u and ur husband chose its ur child! Like someone said she had her choice when she had hers now it's ur choice. It's her lost if she doesn't wanna be apart of his life she's very childish. Tell ur husband not to let it get to him and u don't budge on ur son name at all!!!  

[NetaBaby]

Absolutely name your child what YOU want! If she isnt in your sons life because of his name, she shouldn't be in his life period. Honestly it sounds like she may have said it out of anger but still why should you give her the honor of naming your first son but if you dont comply she doesn't want anything to do with yall? I think the name you chose is made for a handsome little guy and you should use it!

[AugBby2015]

Yeah..... she will either come around or else she is just one horrible human being. I REALLY hope she comes around and was just being over dramatic. But don't give into get choice no matter what. do what you want to do!

[crisfigg]

Wow. She really has no right to do that to you, your husband, or your unborn son. Name him what you want to name him! He's your son, and hopefully she was just saying that out of anger about staying out of his life. That's really low of her to say such thing

[dnvmom]

Name your son whatever you want, don't give into her idle threats. If she follows through on not being apart of his (which I doubt) so be it her loss.

[alexis444]

He is your child not hers she had the chance to name her son and did not use it, that dosnt mean she gets to name yours. Tell her that if she's going to be like that its ok she is not naming your baby. She will get over it. Make sure your hubby stands behind you because you and the baby are his first priority now he has to have your back first.

[augboy18]

Thank you so much

[WhovianMomma]

Name your child what you chose. It's not her choice, she had hers when she had kids. She chose to let someone else pick it. Don't stress about it, momma. She'll either come around to the baby with the name you gave him, or she'll be missing out on an amazing child for something so small as what you call him. Good luck, momma.