Gender battle!?

[Nikki148]

I have a question for all.. When I went to doc last night we had a scan we saw our Lil baby wiggle around we were excited... But then my husband ask is it too soon to tell what it is im 10w. I said yea as well as doc. But then I said we waitn TIL it comes to find out. I knew early with my other 3 n just wanna be surprised this last time around... He then says to doc he wants to know n wants her to tell him. I said to her I have patient rights and wish we not be told no matter what he says. He then says no way but she said I was right! Does anyone think I'm wrong for my decision??? I know he wants a girl n I a boy but don't wanna feel like he will favor a girl more if he knew early and don't want him TELLN me by mistake......advice PLS!!!!

[Tricia0818]

Personally if your married and doing this as a team than both parents have rights. I dont want to be surprised , and if i did and my husband would want to know id give him 100% right to know. If he slipped up and told me oh well lol. Just means i was meant to know before my baby came into the world. I understand your concern of him telling you but he is your husband and your taking away his right to know. Which i dont think is fair, but this is my opinion and ultimately its your choice. Maybe talk it over with each other and tell him why you dont want to know and him say why he wants to know. Good luck!

[Nikki148]

Thx all I feel im makn the right choice too. I wil still have everything I bed for either sex there's plenty of neutral baby things I can get just to start off with then go get the exact color later.

[WhovianMomma]

Her concern is him ruining the surprise for her... And it's her right as a mother. My husband has told me that if I don't want to know the gender of the baby that it's okay, because I'll be the one carrying him/her for almost 10 months. I'm sorry but until they're born, they're a part of our bodies, so the mother has control over this knowledge being released or not.

[Cassie_rondo]

I do think your wrong for not letting him know. If you don't want to know than that's fine. But what gives you the rite to take away from him knowing he is the father so that's not fair.

[jessielynn2014]

I don't understand wanting it to be a surprise. But no you are not in the wrong. I want to find out as soon as i can. Im not a last minute kind of person. I want everything perfect when my baby gets here.

[WhovianMomma]

I don't think you're wrong. I know my husband would start getting items that are specifically for whichever gender it was and would probably just accidentally tell me. Just make sure to talk with your husband about it at home so he realizes how much you want to be surprised. If he still fussed I'd just gently tell him that you're in control of the decision, and they won't release the gender unless you give the say so.