Aa
life falling apart
Hi mommas. Need a place to vent and positive thoughts sent my way.
My fiance and I are pregnant with our first. I'm 9w3d. We were even supposed to get married next Friday in a small ceremony. Found out yesterday that he's been lying to me about having a job and just going and screwing around for a few hours every night. He also relapsed and has used dope occasionally again. He keeps doing this to me. I was petrified when we found out I was pregnant because I didn't want to be a statistic but it's looking like this isn't going to work anyway.
I gave him a week to show me he's trying to find a psychiatrist and a therapist and find another job or else he's out on the street. This has been a very rough year and I thought with our little surprise blessing things would start to look up, considering he's 27 and I'm 26. He just can't seem to grow up.
Had my first ultrasound 3 weeks ago because we didn't know how far along I was and now I have another, more in depth, scheduled for Friday. Everything going on, I'm no longer excited about this baby. My depression is taking over. Its going to be hard going on, especially if he can't clean his crap up.
Just real suddenly having a problem seeing the bright side of things...
My fiance and I are pregnant with our first. I'm 9w3d. We were even supposed to get married next Friday in a small ceremony. Found out yesterday that he's been lying to me about having a job and just going and screwing around for a few hours every night. He also relapsed and has used dope occasionally again. He keeps doing this to me. I was petrified when we found out I was pregnant because I didn't want to be a statistic but it's looking like this isn't going to work anyway.
I gave him a week to show me he's trying to find a psychiatrist and a therapist and find another job or else he's out on the street. This has been a very rough year and I thought with our little surprise blessing things would start to look up, considering he's 27 and I'm 26. He just can't seem to grow up.
Had my first ultrasound 3 weeks ago because we didn't know how far along I was and now I have another, more in depth, scheduled for Friday. Everything going on, I'm no longer excited about this baby. My depression is taking over. Its going to be hard going on, especially if he can't clean his crap up.
Just real suddenly having a problem seeing the bright side of things...
Stay positive and everything will work out just make sure you set boundaries
Remember he can be replaced but your baby can't. Don't let someone who is not good for your baby to begin with take your excitement because your baby matters more than that! Keep your head high you can do it
This must be so stressful. I'm sorry the love of your life hurt you. It's normal, I'm sure, to be depressed after such a let down. You have a blessing growing inside you that will need love, constant love. It sounds like you're a strong woman and you probably know what you have to do. Surround yourself with family and friends, join a mommy-to-be walking club, get involved with something that distracts you from your heartache and allows you to find happiness. Think positive. Train yourself not to need him and worry about your own happiness. Anything you don't like about someone before being married will only be worse after marriage. Stay strong! Everything is temporary.
You Have 7 Months To Decide what youre going to do dont worry God has a plan for you , hes not worth it , have someone try and help you til you are ready to go on your own dont rely on this guy
Have an Answer?
You are reading content posted in the Pregnancy: Aug 2015 Babies Community
Get information and tips on how to help you choose the right place to deliver your baby.
Get the facts on how twins and multiples are formed and your chance of carrying more than one baby at a time.
Learn about the risks and benefits of circumcision.
What to expect during the first hours after delivery.
Learn about early screening and test options for your pregnancy.
Learn about testing and treatment for GBS bacterium.
