How can I nicely tell my family that I want them to change my shower? From the beginning I have asked them 2 things, don't try to surprise me and I want it at my house. I found out today that invite states that it is a surprise and its not at my house. I had the same issue with my bridal shower. Although it was nice, it was not what I wanted and I find myself in the same dilemma but now I am pissed. I'm not a fan of restaurant showers because the guests just sit there for 4 hours and you barely interact with them. Also, I am going to be very pregnant and want to be comfortable in my own home. Not to mention that its about a quarter of the price to have it at my house than it would be to pay $20/person at a restaurant. Is there anyway out of this?