How and when are you telling your family the news?

[lil_lady25]

Hi ladies, as many of you know me and DF have decided to put off telling our family about the pregnancy for a little longer. He says he is ready now but I know he os only saying that because he knows that's what I want to hear. I was wondering how many of you have already told your families? How did you do it and how far along were you? Also, to the woman who havent spilled the secret yet, do you have any cool ideas on how you will tell your family/friends? Our family lives a few hours away and we only see them every few months so we can hid for as long as we want. Our friends are starting to get suspicious though with my weight gain. I'm trying to think of ideas of how to tell the news. I'm so nervous but very excited!!!

p.s. Why don't these posts have a spell check?

[GBen]

I had to tell family right away this time.  I found last time pretty difficult because I was so excited about the 12wk u/s because I could FINALLY spill the beans about being preggo but, instead of good news, I had miscarried.  I had to go to my mum's house right after the u/s to pick up my 2 boys and she knew something was seriously wrong and I broke down and told her what had happened.  She was so sad for me but she hadn't felt all of the excitement of knowing I was pregnant so I didn't feel like she understood my grief or shared it. This time, I wanted to make sure my close family and friends knew so I would have the support if it were to happen again. I am 11wks4days and I am praying this one is going to make it.

[lil_lady25]

How cute about your nephew!! He was probably just nervous that if you had a baby then that would take away time spent with him. My nephew is 4 as well and he was the cutest little thing that was like "I think you will have a boy and 1 girl and I want to change their diapers!". Kids say the dardest things. Would be so funny if his prediction was correct.

[trh0819]

Ummm, that's "baby was in my belly." Apparently I can't type any longer. HA!

[trh0819]

I have a 4 year old niece that keeps asking where the baby is every time she sees us. My husband finally told her this past week that the belly was in my belly. That really threw her. She just looked at him like he was crazy.  My nephew is 5 and is NOT happy. My DH and I spend a ton of time with him (he's my sisters son and long story short, needs good role models so we keep him often and visit his house, too, and he adores my husband). When we told him we'd have a baby coming, he started freaking out and said no, he didn't want a baby. Now he says we can have a baby as long as it's a boy. No girls allowed.  This should be fun  :-)

[lil_lady25]

Thanks Becky! I do feel a whole lot better now that I shared the news. I cant wait to hear about everyones stories how they told their family. Their family's are going to be just as excited :)

[rbohl01]

am so happy for you that you yold everyone!!! I t muist make you feel so much more relaxed now. I hope I get to the point you are at =)

[lil_lady25]

Well we ended up telling our family this weekend!! Everyone seems very excited. Especially my neices and nephews that they will have little cousins to play with. My nephew is 4 and he says he wants to change their diapers!! HAHA  Too cute!! My parents werent too shocked that I was preggers and said they had an idea but they were completely shocked to hear about the twins. My mom is already planning me a baby shower at the end of the year. I told her not to get ahead of herself as we are taking this day by day and we can talk again about baby showers in a few months. It feels so much more real now that we have told everyone. It's made me excited all over again!!!

[SunWorshiper_26]

You ladies have the best ideas!

[ja116]

I told my parents around 12 weeks and just now had my 8 year old niece tell my seven sisters . . . it was really funny "auntie has a secret in her belly."

[bhenneker]

WE decided because we alway miscarried over 8 weeks that our wedding would be the best time to tell everyone (i was 10weeks). For our gift favors we had little jars with jelly bean in them and the tag on the outside said "Thank-you from all SIX of us". We aready have 3 kids so another made 6. Some people realized right away and everyone else by the end of the night noticed. I thought it was a great way.

[rccresswell]

I had a friend that invited their parents over for the weekend because they lived so far away.  When they were at the table having dinner he stood up and said thanks for coming and spending the weekend with us and that he was lookingforwad to the new addition to the family next year.  I thought that was pretty cool.

[ConnieG]

I'm not preggers yet, But I'm thinking of taking a picture of me holding a peanut by my belly and putting it in a frame.  I'll mail it out to family and see the calls fly in :) You could hold 2 peanuts :)
Last time I put a pic of my positive preg test in a frame and gave it to both our parents at a dinner. That was fun.  Too bad it was a false positive.

[rccresswell]

I have told close friends, parents and brothers and sisters at 5-7 weeks.  I am not telling  anyone else until after 14 weeks because I miscarried at 14 weeks.  I am happy I have told the friends and famil we have told incase the worse happens again.

[SunWorshiper_26]

I'm the same as trh in that we told a few close friends who we knew would be there G-d forbid something happened and who also would pray for us. Additionally we told our parents. I can tell you with 100 percent certainty that if I had to do it again I would NOT tell my MiL as we have now started to announce to the world because she started telling people against our wishes. She came in from out of town to visit for my husbands 30th bday and she was talking to my mother about it in front of EVERYONE and when I asked her to please continue that convo at another time she said "ok" an then turned around and continued to talk about it!!  She did this four times in two days. Then was hurt that I was upset with her about it and started crying. THEN on Tues we find out that she has told people on Mon so we frantically started calling people to tell them the news because we wanted to be the ones to share. I emailed MiL and told her how hurt and disappointed my hubby and I are and that we feel like we can't trust her and that hubby said "lesson learned" we can't tell her next time. Her only response was "who did I tell?". Nothing else not even an I'm sorry. I guess moral of this story is that those you trust may not be able to be trusted so pick wisely and be ready to tell the world in case someone has a big mouth. MIL and I always had an amazing relationship until now. I always thought I could trust her :(

So we told close friends and all family at 11 weeks. Earlier than I wanted but at 12wks we will tell the world. And yes why doesn't this have spell check???

[trh0819]

Our family knew we were going through IVF so we weren't hiding anything from the start. However, they didn't know exactly when our blood test was. I had my first beta the Friday before Father's Day so we told our dads by giving them a little bib that said I Love My Grandpa. Honestly, we are glad our family knew early as it has just provided additional support these past two months when stress levels grew high.  Like seattleview, I put on weight from IVF and it was obvious, especially since I'd been losing weight for several months prior. So it was difficult to hide from close friends who saw me frequently. Flowy dresses and baggy shirts only go so far. HA!

My DH and I also believe in the power of prayer, so we were more open more quickly with those close to us knowing they'd pray for me and my baby every day. We also knew if something were unfortunately to happen, we'd have that same support to get us through. So it's worked for us. I think everyone has to decide what it best for them. No real rule to follow.

[rbohl01]

Still waiting as long as I possibly can. Already gaining a tummy though. I called in for a couple of hours this morning and the first thing everyone asked me was are you pregnant??? I have only told a few people so far. Will most likely wait to tell Jason's family until 12 weeks =)

[seattleview]

I wasn't going to tell until the 2nd trimester, but I've gained so much weight and am so short (10 pounds on 5'2" is like 2 clothing sizes) that I know it's pretty obvious I'm either pregnant or a becoming a big fat cow.  I didn't want people to think the latter so I started telling family at 11 weeks (they see me in a bathing suit every weekend so it would have been even more obvious to them), a couple friends this weekend at 11.5 weeks, and am getting ready to tell my boss right now (12 weeks, 1 day).  I'm trying to remain confident that it was a good idea to start telling early, but I just read about a woman on another forum who had a miscarriage at 17 weeks, so now I'm kind of stressed out again. :(

[HaYnSweetie]

I havent really told anyone but you all on here and my sisters and my best friend of course. I havent told my parents yet...im scared! I plan on giving them a picture of my ultrasound when im ready to tell them. Im gonna do it when i hit 14 weeks.