Getting scared of the birth!

[yelloweskimo]

We caught up with some friends that had a baby a couple of days ago - she was born at 9 pounds 12 ounces, which is fairly sizable. When I saw this baby it was so big (well, it's still obviously small because it's a newborn), but in terms of a newborn and it coming out of there she was huge! I couldn't stop thinking about how we fit the babies out! My friend was saying the contractions were worse than the actual birth, but it has really scared me! I don't know how I will stretch that much. She gained over 40 pounds during her pregnancy, and was very big so there was always that chance of having a big child. I have gained 23 pounds and people keep saying I am small for where I am, but who know's how much my bubs will grow in the next few weeks! I am scared of how messy the birth will be and I don't want my partner to see (I feel like he won't be attracted to me anymore after seeing me in labour!). Aaahhh, I am terrified!! Yet I just want her to be out so I know everything is ok.

[Tarobinc]

I'm a little scared, too.  Its mostly the big fear of the unknown for me.  I'm going for the epidural but who knows, that could not take and then what?  I swear Im my own worst enemy sometimes when I think of the worst case scenerios!

I have a firm rule that hubby is not allowed down past my shoulders during the birth.  He can cut the cord but I do not want him to see me push our little angel out. NO WAY!  I don't care what he says....however, I say this now, while Im not in labor or pain...

[natemomma27]

i wish adam would've been put off by watching the birth of our first son, but that just wasn't the case. two weeks after having him adam was ready to 'get down to business'. LOL he said at the time it was a bit gross, but the minute he got to hold his son, he forgot about the mess of birth and thought it was amazing a human could birth another human.

[terra_dawn]

I was scared of giving birth and then just recently I started to read a book that was recommended to me. It was written by a midwife and is called "Ina May's Guide to Childbirth". - There are many birthing stories in there and it really inspiring me to go into labour - I truly can't wait. The stories are moving and beautiful. I am due on Jan 5 and have just started to read it. I'm actually only on page 19; hopefully I will find the time to finish it. I would really recommend this book to all of you. It is inspirational!

[kaity08]

I am so scared of the idea of giving birth too, I was planning on  having a drug free birth, I was planning on not taking the eppidural, but my neighbor had her baby a month ago and she was telling me that when she was only 4 cms dilated she was screaming her head off and she couldnt take it anymore she had to take the epidural, so I am so scared, specially that my husband isnt going to be with me.
but the good thing is that my mom came from over sees YAY....... she will be with me when I give birth to my baby boy, I am so happy she is here so I would feel more comfortable with the idea, specially that she used to be a midwife.....
but I am still very scared........

[Cheesecake7]

Im starting to get a bit nervous as well!   I have talked to my DH about him seeing the yuck of birth.  It makes me nervous that when he sees my "naughty bits"  in that kind of action he will never want to look at them again.... he assures me that this is not the case, of course he has no experience to base that on.   I guess all that we can do is try to prepare ourselves, birth is eminent (sp?)