Another vent from a frustrated pregnant momma

[Lesley27]

So this weekend was good and bad... my mom came down and did all the mudding and sanding in our basement bathroom... and its a big room, ceiling included... so i was so happy to have her help. we also painted the big family room in the basement as well and all the walls are wall board so it took a while to get in all the cracks... and we did paint the bathroom as well... so needless to say we did a crazy amount of work in very little time with my 22 month old helper :) so it was really early mornings to really late nights... anyway i was exhausted everyday but pushed through it... then sunday when im beyond tired i still had to go do a night shift at work so no time to catch up then... and my BF had his first day off after (out of 2) after 10 in a row, min. 12 hour shifts each day so he asked if i really needed to sleep in the morning cause he has tons of stuff to do with cattle and what not... i tried to say id like to sleep at least till 10 am  but he wanted to get out right away so i said id be okay... soooo after the basement projects, looking after my daughter, workng a night shift, usually daily stuff like meals, dishes, ect, and saturday was my BFs Bday so we made supper and had cake, then he was so tired he didnt make his lunches so i made them everyday for him, cleaning and what not i was not in the mood to go out of my way Monday... understandible.... right? then his friend phoned to say he was on his way out cause Clint asked for his help for something...so i didnt knwo if they would stop in the house so i dragged my butt off the couch and cleaned the house... then made supper... i had burgers out to BBQ and thats all i expected Clint to help with... well they unthawed and had some blood in the bag with them and he couldnt possibley touch them... he was so grossed out he was gagging... honestly it wasnt that bad and i was so done that i told him to suck it up ffs adn that i was so tired i could cry and i cant do anymore... he needed to get over it! he got all mad and told me that he didnt need to eat that bad and he didnt come home to get b*tched at and its not his fault im tired... excuse me i pushed myself passed my limits for this family i was doing stuff for him cause he was tired even tho he couldnt even ever understand what i felt like and he should have let me sleep when i got home(he should have put my needs first) BUT i was looking out for him putting him first... i worked a f ucking night and im f ucking pregnant!!! im so mad! and i came home to our toddler! he did say sorry but just for yelling at me he doesnt even have a clue how hurt i am... i feel so unappreciated, he didnt even notice all the stuff i did for him... he doesnt have a clue how busy our daughter is and what it takes to keep the house clean in a day... i cant even think about it without tearing up... and for mothers day he said happy mothers day to me in the AM and that was it... i got nothing...and to top it all off his mom and grandma invited themselves out on sunday to bring him a Bday cake... i had to drill it in his head that that was the last  thing i wanted to do... entertain ppl and clean up after them(then go work a night shift?!).... he finally listened and she phoned me so i told her no we could do it another day...

I went from being so proud of how much i got done(seriously its a pretty amazing amount) to feeling like he didnt even notice or care! and now he knows im upset cause i cant even look at him and i dont want ot even talk to him(and i cried a lot following him yelling) so he is trying to suck up but im so mad and hurt i cant jsut get over it...so i jsut needed to vent... pregnancy hormones and fatigue dont mix well...stupid boys!

On a happier note this baby is growing and i can feel where he/she is now and feel whenever baby moves... a lot :)
theres a bum poking out right now lol  but i havent felt hick ups yet, last night i thought maybe but i think i fell asleep before confirming lol

[Haielysmomma72112]

Lol ive been dealing with the same! Guess they all are the same in some way huh! Lol except when I cry and break down im a crybaby! Ugh like yesterday I had our only car for an apiontment that day and had to pick him up from work, well its a new car so im just getting used to it and that was the first time ive driven it! So I stayed at my moms after the appiontment cuz its closer to his job anywho I was there from 7am to when he called to be picked up at 4 pm and I go to the car and it wont start I sat therr for twenty mins trying to get the piece of crap started and I called him and told him and he yells at me like it was my falt saying well I guess I will walk home then ugh! So i start crying and his response is to hang up!! So my moms bf is trying to help by jumping it and  my mom says it looks like your head lights are on well I look at th se switch and it was on!!! All freaking day!!! Ugh and the batt in my car is from my bigg suv and my car wont charge the batt back up so I have to switch it out .and put it iN her big suv for it to charge well this whole time im crying cus im pissed at my self for not at least looking to see if they were off (my old truck went off automaticaly) anyway my whole point was he just ignores me when I cry and break down like that!! But he did say sorry for freaking out when we got home!! But that didny help me when I was stuck!

[Lesley27]

lol so basically the same as me! that make me feel better that im not the only one who had a break down! and yes he was sucking up but i still dont see him doing much to help... but he is busy in his defense...farming work never ends and his job keeps getting longer and longer hours added...

[sadies93]

my fiance can be pretty clueless sometimes. Most men just dont see how hard it can be to be pregnant, clean house and cater to them. They just dont seem to understand what we go thru no matter how hard we try to explain it to them, sometimes it just takes a complete break down before they understand how we feel

Me and my fiance got into a similar fight the oher week. The dishes had piled up from a couple days of them not getting done, so i done dishes, cleaned the livingroom, kitchen, bedroom and computer room from top to bottom, bathed our stinky dogs, cleaned out the closet in our babys room, and made diner and re done the dishes that night, then stayed up til almost 2am so my fiance could play games, got up at 7am the next day and he slept till almost 1pm because i couldnt get him to get out of bed and i had spent that morning putting the babys room together and cleaning the hallways from top to bottom. He wanted to go fishing but i didnt want to go so he got mad at me and i just busted out in tears and started crying and yelling at him on how i do so much for him to do so little and can be happy, i cried for like a hour and he felt so bad that he sucked up all that afternoon and hes done the dishes all this week, so i think i got him to notice lol

[Lesley27]

they really are clueless... i was pretty cold to him yesterday and he didnt know why?! lol so i talked ot over with him a bit and he said sorry and that he should have let me sleep lol and he shouldnt have yelled at me like that...so anyway he said he will try to help but we will see lol
I feel better but i was pretty down that he would be like that after i worked so hard... like i told him i put my family first above myself and he doesnt so hopefully he will try to work more as a team lol but we will see

[Daphni]

Sounds like you have had an extremely busy week!!! I just dont think men get how tiring it is to be pregnant. It's so draining and exhausting. Hang in there girl!! We are almost there!!

[Heatherm4]

Oh ya, they have no idea. And they can be so insensitive sometimes. All I asked was to sleep in on Mother's Day and my DH was getting up to go to the gym at like 6am. He seems to think that if he goes early it's ok. Needless to say sometimes my son wakes at like 6:30am usually 7. So where the hell was my sleep in time going to happen? He went to kiss me by and I told him he was insensitive and that he didn't care. He thought I was joking when I said the night before that I didn't want him to go. DUH....so dumb sometimes. He's been getting on my nerves a lot...not sure whether it's hormones or what but honestly!!
LOL So ya, I feel ya!!

[brit0585]

I really dont think they understand what it is like to be pregnant at all. Its not that we are growing a baby we are giving up our lives for 9 months before they ever even have to start helping and the helping with the baby they do is not always a ton. Its hard work being a mom and being pregnant and having so much to do. I am very thankful my husband doesnt want me to work because I do alot already with babysitting nephews (which should be over in a couple weeks) and then we got a new dog this weekend :) and cleaning the house and doing laundry and cooking and all that. I couldnt imagine working on top of that! But again he does work 10 days in a row so i am sure he is tired by the time he gets home also. My husband sometimes works 6 days weeks but his work days are anywhere between 10-15 hour days depending on what he gets hit with at the end of the day. Way to go you though for getting all the painting done. That is a hard job in itself and then to do it while pregnant also is not easy. I did that last week for 2 days prepping the baby room and I was spent!! Hopefully things start to settle down for you and you only have a couple more weeks of work right?!? That will help I am sure to not have work on top of everything else.

I am still trying to figure out where my baby is.. LOL I know she is in my tummy hahaha but she is flip flopping all over the place all the time! She is so active. I wouldnt be surprised with as much as she moves if I end up with a C section because she wont stay head down. I am certain she tried standing up inside me last night a few times lol!! We are all getting close to baby time and I am getting so anxious to meet my little girl. Not sure I will make it to July 25 though. Still really hoping to go sooner! :) Will talk to dr about it at next appt in 2 weeks. See what he thinks and how big he thinks she is. Everyone is telling me I am small for how far along I am. He hasnt said anything though when measuring so I dont really know what to think.