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He keeps tellin me to get an abortion.
okay, so this isnt really a question.. but im a single mom of an autistic 3 y.o. im now 11 weeks pregnant with baby #2. much like my first pregnancy.. the man DOES NOT WANT the baby nd wants me to get abortion. with my son i went in to get an abortion and couldn't do it.. I went my whole pregnancy and the first 6months of my child's life without speaking to him. He's semi-involved now but not really. nd im ok with it i made the choice to keep my son. this time is so different.. my ex was supportive.. nd then not.. then supportive then hates me nd always says i ruined his life by getting pregnant..nd im selfish for keeping the baby when he doesn't want it.. but im keeping it. i feel like im makin the right choice, but am i? am i selfish for bringing another baby in this world without a father?
We are in pretty much the same predicament. The father wanted me to abort and even offered to pay for it immediately after I told him. Of course after telling him no I was now titled selfish and self centered. It broke my heart honestly. We were still together until the day I told him I was pregnant. I never saw myself in this situation so I took it a bit hard at first. But I gave myself 3 days to grieve the relationship and prayed and asked God to guide me. Since doing that I haven't thought about an abortion and I won't. I know that everything happens for a reason and people are brought into our life for a reason. First time in a while that I have been stress free. Just take it one day at a time. If you believe in God just talk to him he will help you.
@babyfollord, let me know when God solves your ignorance
You are not selfish a single bit. Give him an out. If he doesnt want anything to do with the baby, then tell him it is possible he can give up his parental rights. Also, when the baby is born, make sure you do not put his name on the birth certificate, give the baby your last name. Good luck to you. Im dealing with someone who told me to adopt my baby out while sitting in the docs office waiting for an ultrasound picture of the baby. Men are jerks. If we have boys, its our job to raise them right. You do what YOU want, dont let him pressure you. Good luck
Don't listen to Watson
God did not give a baby, a guys semen and stage in your cycle did. And praying won't solve issues, perdonalities and the desire to do so will.Sorry but i camt stand when others tell that "God" will figure out human problems. In my opinion....Do what your heart tells you to do. If you wish to keep. Then keep and love that child, if not, then no one will judge you bc you are the only one in your shoes.
If GOD gave you this baby, then it's the right choice. GOD wouldn't give you a baby if it wasn't the right timing. Remember, GOD's timing isn't ours and God knows what's best. So you are making the best decision keeping the blessing God gave you. Never think otherwise. You know how many women out there are trying and can't get pregnant. But you did, that's a blessing in itself. Just pray and you guys will be alright.
I have a 6 year old who's dad was NEVER in the picture at all, and I found out i was pregnant 2 days before my lease was up because i broke up with the baby's father. I told him anyway and he wanted me to get an abortion. I refused, scared that i made the wrong decision in keeping it, but i heard its heart beat for the first time today. I know for a fact i made the right decision now. Kids make you happier than any man ever will. Its scary and hard, especially with a special needs child but it CAN be done.
thank u ladies. I kno in my heart i am doing the right thing...my brain is the one second guessing my decision.. i kno.it'll b hard.. ive been doing it for 3 yrs. IT IS HARD to b a single parent, but i refuse to abort just to make his\my life easier. Thats not fair at all..
The only father your baby needs is God. When I found out I was pregnant someone told me that. I chose not to abort. I know its hard, but God is the best father your baby could have.
No hun ur not selfish its your right as a woman and a human being to make your own choices trust me my daughter's dad isn't around so i had to be mommy and daddy if he doesn't want to be there fk him that child is a gift from god and it chose u to be its parent maybe one day he will grow up and want to b a dad but thats on him just stay strong and positive it may be hard but all of us on here will be your support group dont let anybody bring u down especially a man.
Babies are a blessing if the dad is that way then your better off with just you and your perfect babies. Maybe one day you and then will get the man/dad they deserve:) your not selfish it sounds like you did not plan on getting pregnant but its a blessing don't listen to the piece of poo (i had other worlds but went with this on) good luck your a great mom and will be for this one as well
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