scared....

[livylaine]

I've been pregnant twice before and miscarried both pregnacies. When I was pregnant before I told family right away. This time I asked my man if we could wait until the beginning of the 2nd trimester. Is it wrong of me to keep the news from the family just because I'm scared or am I in the right to just keep the stress of the family knowing and their input off of me until  I'm further along in my pregnancy?

[10Angels]

We had 8 misscarriages before we had any live babies and we never told anyone till pretty much the end. We got married 3 weeks before our due date so that was when everyone found out...when I got out of the car they all gasped in shock! They were even more shocked as well as ourselves when we went into labour and had to leave our wedding to go to the hospital and have our wee gift. It was amazing!!!!! Dont feel bad about holding out I found it easier to deal with rather than having to explain the losses to all who knew which is what happened the first few pregnancies.

[kmcb8288]

I told my mom, but we're keeping it from other family members until the 2nd trimester too. They'll understand.

[hdkryan]

Nah. I swore after my second miscarriage that I wouldn't bother keeping it a secret because it's so crap when you loose a baby and nobody even knows you were pregnant, it's like it didn't matter. But, now that I'm here again I feel like keeping it quiet for a while longer. At least till 10wks with a good scan. One or two friends know, they were pillars of support to me during the two losses, but I want to hold back on the families just yet, because they worry and they would be on to be everyday asking questions and generally bothering me, with best intentions.
Good luck!

[BonitaMichelle]

you should share with your family. Also share your concerns from your past miscarriages. You will need all the prayers and positive energy to get through the 1st trimester. Also sharing may take some of the stress off of you. Best wishes.

[rabeccarice]

You are doing the right thing if that's what you want don't worrie:) and I hope everything works out for all of you ladies:)

[leannep12]

I am in exactly the same situation i misscarried twice before and im not telling everyone but my partner has because his so excited i feel like if i tell everyone something bad will happen.

[nicole8624]

No, I don't think it's wrong. I'm doing the same thing because I miscarried once before also and now I am waiting. It's your decision on what feels right to you!