Does anyone have the same issue??

[Zally07]

I am 27 weeks with my second child and I am having second thoughts of having my husband with me during the delivery.  With our first we were sexually active probably even more than before I got pregnant. He worked out of town so he would only be here weekends but we would make up for it. Anyways our baby came a couple weeks early so he didn't make it to the delivery.  Now with our second he has absolutely no drive to have sex. We still cuddle and he still treats me the same he just avoids sex. Of course many things have gone through my mind the only answer he gives me is that he's tired. Yet he works the same hours and was never tired before he actually always wanted it no matter what time of day he would bug me to have sex. I understand the whole thing about men feeling b weird about it because there is a baby in there but that was not the issue with our first I don't get why it is now. Anyways I feel so unattractive and depressed over the situation that now I'm not sure if I want him to see me give birth. He feels so bad over missing our daughters and we were both looking forward to having that special moment this time around but now I'm not sure. I feel that if he's not attracted to me now over my belly I can't imagine how much worse it will be once he sees our baby come out of my vagina. I'm so concerned that it will end up hurting our relationship and eventually lead to a divorce.  I have been trying to be very understanding with the issue right now but if it continues like this after the baby I don't think I can handle the lack of intimacy.  

[WillzMom]

Cuddling is a form of intimacy. Have you discussed how you're feeling? Have you tried to seduce him? Fix his favorite meal, pour his favorite cocktail, slip on something that makes you feel sexy, offer a little oral? Often times women believe men are mind readers, guess what though... they're not! Lol! I like to think of them as gentle beasts who need to be led. Unless there is something really troubling going on in his life, he should have no issues with you seducing him. But that's just me. I'm not overly sexual this pregnancy, but I definitely feel sexy almost all of the time and have no problem seducing my husband when I feel like it.

[Zally07]

I am just really scared that if he sees how it actually is down there when giving birth that it would get worse than what it is now. Of course I would love to experience that moment with him but  also thinking of what's gonna happen afterward. I understand maybe he is stressed out but to go for two months without any kind of physical contact it does worry me.

[jjolfert]

I actually found that my husband was more attentive and present AFTER our daughter was born. He was in the delivery room and had a hard time there but he was blown away by how I handled everything and was definitely in awe of me being able to bring our child into the world. I think his respect for me grew a lot that day. So I think it really depends. That level of intimacy may get worse if you don't let him be there for the birth. He may resent you for it. I know it.is a very bonding experience meeting your child together.

[GeekMom1213]

I'm going to make a bet that if he wants to be there and you tell him you don't want him there, that's a situation that's much more likely to negatively affect your relationship. Having a chance to witness his child being born, and having that chance taken away from him by his wife, would be devastating to any man I know.
Have you talked to him about the lack of intimacy? It would be best to sit down and have a talk at a neutral time when neither of you is exhausted or angry or stressed out. Not when you're in the mood and he isn't. Be honest but be gentle. There could be any number of reasons.
I work fewer hours now than I did when expecting my first. My husband has a better schedule now than when expecting our first. We are both four years older than we were last time around with a lot more responsibility and a busy preschooler wearing us both out. We adore each other and have plenty of sex drive between the two of us but at this point we are lucky to make love twice a week, when it was probably five or six times a week last time around. It isn't that we love each other any less. We're just tired. No way on earth would I ever consider banning him from one of the most important moments of our family's existence just because of sex. Sex is important in a relationship but it's far from the only thing that matters.

[bcmtuk]

Having a baby can change a relationship a lot,  just because you're not having as much sex it doesn't mean feelings have changed. 3 more months and you'll have two lovely children together and you're relationship will go through changes again, just roll with it and don't make any decisions you could regret. The best advice I can give you is to talk to him,  be open and honest and hopefully he will do the same.