MY mom...

[angeloflemons406680]

So I'm 37 weeks with my second child, and my mom badgered me with my first to let her be in the delivery room. I see that time as the growth of our little family, special for me and my husband. She didn't understand then, and as I experience more signs that labor is approaching, she's started again. I've made my decision clear, but I fear this will be like the first time-constantly having an IDENTICAL conversation.
I'm not sure why she wants to be in there so badly, but our relationship has never been exactly stellar and I feel she's making to big of a deal about it. Even went so far as to say there was no point in coming to the hospital until after the baby was born if she couldn't be in the room...

Anyone else having this issue?

[kmccracken3]

My mom wants to be in the delivery room so bad also. I just feel like it's such a special moment for my husband and I to be alone together. The bad part is is that my mom is an ob nurse and delivers babies daily. So I feel bad telling her she can't be in the room for the one delivery I know she really wants to see.. but it's just what my husband and I decided is best for us

[paigeellaine]

My mom is the same way. I told her she doesn't have to like the decisions my husband and I make but she has to respect them if she wants to continue to have a good relationship.

[schenner2]

Personally i want my mom in the room. She was in there with my first and there isnt quite anything like a mothers encouragement!  Love my hubby but he is pretty quiet and shy and he wasnt very helpful aside from the massages with my first!  This time i hope to have my mom and my mother inlaw in the room with us.  I love my mother in law and know it would mean alot to her.  Obviously i would want her near my head! We will see how it all plays out!  I do understand people wanting just their spouses if their spouse has the personality to encourage and be helpful.  

[Alicia1986]

My mum keeps asking who I'm having in the room, I only want my husband and she keeps saying are you sure you want him in there I'm like yeh he's the father of course I do, my husband is so offended as I would be if it was the other way round. Hoping my MiL doesn't think she is coming in... I will lose my **** on the day if drama unfolds about who's coming in and kick all of them out!!

[Mogpog]

My mom lives far away so she doesn't have the expectation to be in the room, but I did make it clear to my MIL that it will just be my husband with me. I feel like it is an extremely personal experience and if possible I would just have my husband there and no medical staff. Just keep telling your mom it will just be husband and she will eventually have to deal with it. Maybe compromise kinda and let her to be the "next" person to meet baby after you and the hubby?

[kphair]

Had this same conversation with my mom since I was 12 weeks. I feel like its something I want only me and my husband to share. I just told her I would not talk about it anymore and that she would see the baby after delivery.

[happiMom87]

Well for me during my first delivery I wanted my parents there but had a failed vaginal and had to have an emergency c section which only my husband was allowed to go.. I'm prego with my second and I will again have a c section bc of placenta placement.. again only hubby allowed. However if I felt as strongly as you do I would put my foot down, regardless of your reason for it I think as the one who will deliver you have every right in the world to decide who can and can't be there. Hope she understands and happy delivery!!