c-section

[sjl1988]

Booked in for c-section in 5 days and my partner is a complete arsehole and doesnt support me now. Im more nervous cos i feel like il be doing it alone. He doesnt tell me hes supporting me or nothing. All i keep thinking is i want my mum there. Im terrified something going to go wrong and so panicy and cant stop crying about leaving my other 2 kids. I explained my fears to him and no interest at all. What can i do to ease my fear

[happiMom87]

I hope you had a wonderful delivery and hope you are feeling much much better!

[2015Harmony]

Try to relax.. Let him be there, Ur mom can come see U rt after the baby. Call Ur hospital to see the post csection visiting situation. At my hospital as soon as I was in the recovery rm, 2 visitors could be in the rm. u are going to need help once at home, especially w 2 other children. Try to calmly talk to him about what U need. Also talk to Ur mom. Let his attitude & decision be his. U need to focus Ur energy on yourself & be positive. It's hard I know, but really  Ur energy needs to be on U & Ur other 2 kids plus the arrival of Ur new baby. He should be there & be supportive but if he's not don't focus on him.
I've had an emergency C & a scheduled 1. An emergency C is much harder on Ur body & harder to recover from. The planned C is so much easier. Good luck & many blessings.

[sjl1988]

My 1st child was an emergency c-section and was a horrible experience to me and my 2nd was a natural delivery. This is a planned c-section but this baby is to my new partner not my other 2s dad. And this partner is selfish and doesnt seem concerned about me or the babies well being. I can only have 1 person with me and he wants to n if my mums there he wil make my life a living hell he says. But im due tomorrow and he went out drinkin last night and still isnt home. With my other 2 this was such a happy time and me and there dad was together and there for each other but this partner is the worst i could ask for in this situation. Im emotional, scared and alone

[happiMom87]

I felt exactly how you do... For whatever reason I began to panick about a week ago and today was my c section.. I prayed a lot abd it definitely helped that my hubby abd parents kept reassuring me. If you dint have that from hubby get it from whoever gives it... Surrounding yourself with positive people will make you feel just that.. positive. God bless you!!

[2015Harmony]

Are you still w your partner? Or is he just not taking it how you are? W my 1st Csection I never really had a chance to process anything bcuz it was an emergency babies/my vitals dropped & that's all U think of. My 2nd I cried & had so many fears/nerves etc. my 3rd here in 2 days.. I'm nervous but not as much. Although I think of so many things that can go wrong & I try to just refocus my thoughts by saying to myself "I'm going to have a healthy baby & a great delivery". It's easy to let Ur mind wonder about everything that "could" happen. I tell my hubby my worries too & he is very just matter of fact & doesn't think or talk about it too much. I actually think it's his way of being stronger for me, he's my support so he doesn't like to seem worried so I worry less. Sometimes that's just how guys are. If u want ur mom there U can. But if Ur still together he should be there, you'll both regret it if not. Or just ask him if he wants to be in the OR. W my 2nd C, my hubby cut the umbilical cord & was the 1st one to hold the baby while they fixed me up. Drs perform Csections all the time. You'll be fine, you'll survive. What I will say is to make recovery easier get up & walk ASAP. Also look on Pinterest there are some good blogs/articles about gentle csections/recovery etc. lots of good tips.

[sew_cute]

Just know that you are in good hands and morning will go wrong. The Drs do them every day.  Your kids are rooting for you. It will be all worth it. Good luck and congratulations!