rant- annoyed art my fiance

[QueSorpresa]

He has no time to do anything because he goes to school and work, we just moved and had a huge mess in my place. I had my mom come help me with my aunt and i was so happy so much got done! He comes home and blows a gasket because I had ppl help me. He hates ppl helping him, but I told him many times I need help, things have to get fixed and he has no time. He keep saying he'll do it when he finishes the semester in a few weeks but wtf, he can't do it alone cuz half the stuff is mine anyways!! My family was great help today and I feel so much better, things are not finished but it's definitely much more organized now. He just yelled at me, telling me he doesn't want ppl to touch his stuff and this can't happen again, he'll leave. Then barely said anything to me before going to bed. Whatever he has some serious control and anger issues. I'm so annoyed.

[Kryara]

Yeah his reaction isn't normal.  He should be grateful that people are taking some stress of you and him with trying to help. My mother just picks holes in things in our home (when ours is a lot cleaner than hers) yet would she offer to help? No! I'm disabled and still working on my post grad and lecturing until I take leave in May and I have severe SPD so I would love extra help. I think he needs to re-adjust his attitude because you are pregnant and can't do it by yourself and you don't know when baby will arrive, so getting it done sooner rather than later is always best. Sounds like he has control issues.

[newbee18]

Sounds like my guy sometimes, only my guy has anger problems

[lisajean86]

Wow, and you're going to marry this guy? My husband would never act like that. Maybe I'm lucky but shouldn't we all have better?... because there really are good guys out there.

[newbee18]

We know this deep down but I don't want to leave because I have no where.else to go. I'm 19 and a ftm with no job and no car..parents won't let me come back so I'm here with mr. Anger problems.

[QueSorpresa]

He just has some anger & control problems....I just let him get over it. Eventually he calmed down. Most of the stuff was mine anyways and his stuff was left alone. I know him lol. Sometimes I find it mind boggling the way he reacts to certain things...Honestly I wouldn't want him to leave and I don't really believe he would, but if he does I'll be fine. I can take care of myself, I made sure of that!! I am, however much older than New bee (35) also a ftm. I'm sorry New bee that you are in a tougher situation but after the baby is born you will be able to get on your own two feet. You just have to make it happen so you are not so dependent on him. My friend had her kids at 18 and went to engineering school after her kids were a little older. Now she is the main breadwinner. She makes a ton of money and bought a house by herself while her husband works odd jobs.

[lachanel]

Well just tell them not to touch his things. Only yours

[Em_Ty]

I do not agree with most people saying he has anger issues or anything like this. Pregnancies are stressful enough has it is and i understand that us mothers to be want to get things done, and sometimes we get annoyed cause it aint getting done fast enough for us. So we get help. But guys will be guys, they dont make cleaning, straigtning or organizing a first priority. But i like to say that im pregnant and not disable or anything. I do most thing myself ans i dont expect much from my man. He helps me for harder things, or heavier stuff. But give him a break, he works, goes to school. Maybe he needs a break after all.

[happiMom87]

I'm not trying to play the devil's advocate but I myself am a control freak my husband said that in June when I have my son he would like his mom to come over to help take care of the things I will do as I will have a c-section. Usuallymy mom would be the one to do it but she is leaving out of the country on very important business. And i said thanks but no thanks LOL
But definitely not angered.. Mayybe he's under a lot of pressure himself.. he is having a baby, he goes to school and he has a job.  Doesn't sound too easy. Relax when he's mad give him space and talk to him once things are more calm. Have a blessed pregnancy!!!