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Anyone else have this feeling that after the baby is born, they won't have that many friends anymore?
I feel like I've drifted apart from them over the course of my pregnancy. I couldn't hang out with them during my first trimester since they all smoke cigarettes and I obviously had to quit.
And then in my 2nd trimester, I realized how dead end their lives were. They are all completely content with their mediocre, pot smoking, beer drinking lives. While I went to school full time. When I would hang out with them, I noticed my friends were HORRIBLE parents. They let their son do whatever he wanted, eat whatever and whenever, and they barely pay any attention to him. They'd rather be on their phones than interact with their child. And what's worse is they'd smoke pot in HIS ROOM. Even though he wasn't in his room, I couldn't believe it. I mean, come on!
Now that my pregnancy is almost over (woohoo) I don't really think I want to have friends like that! They're like the perfect example of what I DON'T want to be. I know that once my baby comes, my life is going to change. It HAS TO change. And as much as I'd love to go back to my old drinking/smoking self, I can't. Ugh.
I feel like I've drifted apart from them over the course of my pregnancy. I couldn't hang out with them during my first trimester since they all smoke cigarettes and I obviously had to quit.
And then in my 2nd trimester, I realized how dead end their lives were. They are all completely content with their mediocre, pot smoking, beer drinking lives. While I went to school full time. When I would hang out with them, I noticed my friends were HORRIBLE parents. They let their son do whatever he wanted, eat whatever and whenever, and they barely pay any attention to him. They'd rather be on their phones than interact with their child. And what's worse is they'd smoke pot in HIS ROOM. Even though he wasn't in his room, I couldn't believe it. I mean, come on!
Now that my pregnancy is almost over (woohoo) I don't really think I want to have friends like that! They're like the perfect example of what I DON'T want to be. I know that once my baby comes, my life is going to change. It HAS TO change. And as much as I'd love to go back to my old drinking/smoking self, I can't. Ugh.
lovinmyboys28 It sure is hard. But with God by your side everything will be fine. All you truly need is your family, your kids, and God (:
MarieK0315 I am starting to see it the same way. I don't think real friends really exist. Its hard having kids and trying to maintain friends. Hopefully I will find a true friend one day.
I have distanced myself from a lot of friends as well. I happen to notice that they were all so different to what I thought. When I was working with them they would always come around, etc. Once my boss decided to fired me stating there were "no hours available for me" when I told her I was expecting they all dissapeared along with my job. The thing is nobody's your friend. They're just people you happen to know. Congrats on your decision and on your baby. Best of luck :)
I'm 18, and all my friends go to raves and do drugs. And I was a huge pot head before I found out I was pregnant. Smoked almost all day everyday. And both of my best friends are pot heads.. And they don't hang out with me much anymore either.
If you wanna figure out who your true friends are, have kids. And see who sticks around.
But I'm fortunate enough to know many women around my age that just recently have kids and will have them shortly after I do.
I wouldn't stress so much about it, once baby is here you'll have no time for anything else. :)
If you wanna figure out who your true friends are, have kids. And see who sticks around.
But I'm fortunate enough to know many women around my age that just recently have kids and will have them shortly after I do.
I wouldn't stress so much about it, once baby is here you'll have no time for anything else. :)
im on my third child and I guarantee You will make loads of new friends in the same situation as you at mother and baby groups,nursery and school so don't worry
Marchmamma2015 I wish we lived in the same state cause I'm also 25, due in March! I'm not really the first to be married, but I was the first to get married and actually move out of my parents house lol.
It does suck! But hopefully we'll make new mama friends who are responsible adults :)!
It does suck! But hopefully we'll make new mama friends who are responsible adults :)!
I feel you! My best friend seems to think I have a disease and can no longer hang out with me. Which is fun bc all they do is smoke pot. I am 25 and first to have a child in the group. I am also the first to get married. I am ready for the next chapter in my life and they are not. They think adult life doesn't start till they are 30
:( breaks my heart but I think our friendship is coming to an end. We have been friends since freshmen year of college.
:( breaks my heart but I think our friendship is coming to an end. We have been friends since freshmen year of college.
Good for you for realizing that you needed a change. It will be hard for a while, but I'd suggest trying to find baby groups around you. Like mommy and me groups or something so that you can make new friends. You are very brave for what you have done by distancing yourself from those that you find a bad influence, that is so awesome.
Good luck !
Good luck !
I feel the same way. I'm only 20 years old and majority of my friends are the same age as I am and I'm having a baby that's due in March and I do a lot of my friends just don't understand responsibilities that I have now that I'm going to be a parent and now that I'm a stepmom because my boyfriend has kids of his own and it's just hard because they want to do all the stuff that I'm not able to do because I have kids to take care of
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