avoiding my pregnant sister in law

[maritza8884]

Not sure why but don't feel like I want to be around my pregnant sister in law.  My nephew bday party is this weekend but trying to find any excuse for me not to go. Maybe I'm mad that it was really hard and difficult for me to get pregnant after my miscarriage or that she lied to me when I asked her if she was pregnant.  I just don't want to be around her and do t care to know if she's having a girl or boy it's her 4th baby and it seems like not wanting a baby she got one. My last miscarriage was a beautiful little girl which will be 1 year in April 3rd. At the moment I'm not ready to see her so happy. When I'm scared for myself and my baby boy that will arrive in May. She was bragging that if she has a girl she will be the favorite for the reason of her been the first girl. I get mad because she's not even think that I just lost my daughter and she has no right to say she might have the first baby girl. My baby girl might not be with us but was still a beautiful little baby girl. Sorry for long vent. Just need to vent

[LaurenC86]

Kids do.t even care who shows up to their bday parties when it comes to adults, all they want are the presents. Lol..  I dont think you should force yourself to go bc your feelings on this are completely understandable. Just say you don't  feel well and send your husband with a gift from you.  

[maritza8884]

Thank you Felish for your comment maybe I'm mad at myself for losing my daughter maybe she didn't lie on purpose but she still did like i lost my daughter. Just at the moment I still don't know how to feel about her news and her joy. I just want to enjoy my pregnancy and my sadness that goes with it. I know I haven't fully recovered from my loss.

[Felishhh]

Sorry to hear about the miscarriage. Did she lie to you about being pregnant because she didn't know how you would take the news of her being pregnant ? She could have been trying to guard your feelings. I think that a lot of what you feel is anger within yourself that you lost your girl which im sure all of us would feel. A baby is a blessing. I am expecting my first and I'm so connected to him so I know a loss was definitely devastating. All I can say is don't let her steal your joy of being pregnant. And even if this is her fourth child, she should still be excited no matter how long is takes the rest of us to get pregnant. Everyone has their own luck and God actually makes the decision and timing is all on him. I hope that you can get past it and be happy for your nephews party.

[maritza8884]

Thank you for listening to me. I just told my husband how I feel and he isn't forcing me go he understands me. I honestly just want to be out of town this weekend. I don't want to be near anyone that's not my husband.  I just remember my little girl would be around 6 months old. I understand my nephew has nothing to do with this but don't want to hear anything that will make me depress and affect my pregnancy. I don't need or want any unwanted stress.

[Shohna]

I think the way you feel sounds completely normal..she clearly isnt being empathetic towards you..which anyone in their right mind would!do what you feel you must..go for a little while or not at all..dnt feel pressurised..put yourself first :)

[Amina4ae]

She's an immature, attention seeking person that for one reason or another is very jeolous of you. Be the bigger person and go to the party for your nephew. If you let her know her arrogant ways is bothering you, she will feel like she's 'won'! I wouldn't give her that satisfaction. Your still healing from your devastating loss, which I'm so sorry for, and hopefully she doesn't need to loose a little one to understand your feelings....

[EJAndEden]

So sorry to hear that...and sorry for ur insensitive SIL.
Here's the thing about the bday: ur not there for her bit for ur nephew.  
Be the bigger person and go for ur nephew. U don't have to stay long just be there for ur nephew and leave her alone. U don't have to be buddy buddy with her ...say hi , have have a piece or cake and leave again :-)