34 weeks ftm feeling like a nobody

[vanessaC831]

My bf hasn't been the nicest. I feel like a nobody. He has made it to  2 appointments. I'm 34 weeks along. I go to classes on my own since he lives 3 he's away. I see him every 2 weeks I ask him for attention and love but I'm sure I come off as needy. He called me the b word about 3 times today first time ever. Said I expect him to be there all the time is ridiculous. Maybe I am being needy? I couldn't even say anything back because I was so hurt by everything he was saying to me and didnt want him to know i was crying the way he said it literally broke my heart. I can't talk to him because then it will b the same thing me sounding needy. The way he spoke to me today was so disrespectful like I was a pos. Am I being crazy? Is it the hormones?

[RockRose]

And,  it's not "needy" to insist on being spoken to respectfully.  It's powerful and strong.  

[RockRose]

Vanessa,  I don't know what the circumstances were - if you were in a terrible fight,  or whatever,  but you need to make it clear to him he can't call you that.  Period.

If he's there,  I'd say very calmly,  "I'm still hurting a lot from what you called me today.  I'm not going to let you call me that."  And then leave it.  Don't listen to him argue or defend himself,  just stop talking.  Or text him if he's not there.

Best wishes.  If you put up with that once,  it will never end,  and you don't deserve that from the one person in the world who should be on your side.

[Hopeful_Momma]

Wow your bf sounds like a big fat jerk. You're not being needy, if he was a real man he'd know how to treat a lady, especially his pregnant gf. You should not be afraid of telling him how you feel. He doesn't sound like he treats you very nice at all, no wonder you're needy. My goodness girl, I wish I could give you a big ol' hug.

[latria]

You're not crazy, your bf needs to grow up. Have a clear calm discussion about what you need, if he is unable or unwilling to try or compromise, move on.