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Advice Please
This Is My First Pregnancy I'm 23 Years Old My Boyfriend Already Had A Child Before He Met Me And I Accepted That No Problems But I Feel As Tho No Matter How Hard I Try To Be Mutual With The Child's Mother But Respect Her. She Always Has Something Negative To Say But She Says It To Him He Claims Get Defends Me But When I'm Around Her I Get Different Vibes .
Thanks Ladies For all The advice!!! Its Appreciated Trust Me I Need Support
Maybe that's been your experience. I'm sorry you have such a negative view on things.
t_kiopat, when you have a relationship with someone who keeps holding conversations about you behind your back, and then tells you what the other person has said that's negative, it's to hurt you on purpose. It's not to "be honest". It's a vehicle for him to say mean things to her.
For example, if you have a friend who tells you "so and so thinks you're lazy", "so and so thinks you're just using me", "so and so thinks you're not pretty and wonders why I am with you", that friend is trying to tell you those things to stab at you.
It's one thing if you have a friend who you think is really loyal and loves you, and a friend comes up and says I'm sorry to tell you this, but she's backstabbing you, and gossiping about you.
That's different. That's information you can use, and it's painful but you need to know it.
This is her boyfriend, and his ex-girlfriend. She has no expectation that the girlfriend loves her and is her dear friend.
And it's not a generous and honest thing for him to continue telling her nasty things his ex said (if she actually did, who knows) and stand there like an angel himself saying but I stood up for you.
That's like saying to someone everytime when people say you're fat I stick up for you. Gee, thanks.
For example, if you have a friend who tells you "so and so thinks you're lazy", "so and so thinks you're just using me", "so and so thinks you're not pretty and wonders why I am with you", that friend is trying to tell you those things to stab at you.
It's one thing if you have a friend who you think is really loyal and loves you, and a friend comes up and says I'm sorry to tell you this, but she's backstabbing you, and gossiping about you.
That's different. That's information you can use, and it's painful but you need to know it.
This is her boyfriend, and his ex-girlfriend. She has no expectation that the girlfriend loves her and is her dear friend.
And it's not a generous and honest thing for him to continue telling her nasty things his ex said (if she actually did, who knows) and stand there like an angel himself saying but I stood up for you.
That's like saying to someone everytime when people say you're fat I stick up for you. Gee, thanks.
No it sounds like he's being honest with you and not keeping things from you. Don't let other people put ideas in your head and effect your relationship with your man. A lot of men don't like confrontation. And the fact that your guy is being honest with you and sharing what she is saying is showing he's trusting in you.
Why is he telling you what she is saying?
He certainly sounds like he's enjoying having two women.
He certainly sounds like he's enjoying having two women.
Just always be humble and respectful. She might just be bitter since she's his ex. If you're always humble and respectful then you're alwaysin the right and it'll keep the peace.
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