Bf going to a strip club

[tonyaaGonzalez]

finding out that my bf is going to a strip club (not for bachelors party).... wtf
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[LaurenC86]

I personally don't see a problem with strip clubs, as long as I'm being told about it, but you have every right to feel however you like about it. if he tried to hide it or knew that you have a problem with it then that's a huge no no, and you should definitely talk to him about how you feel about it... Also I'd just like to say bc I saw a lot of women say how belittling or degrading it is for women to strip and I actually have a few friends that are strippers (and have done it myself in the past) and they don't find it degrading at all, its actually quite empowering.

[specialmom]

This to me sounds like a good time for serious communication. some ladies have no issue with their partner at a strip club and others do and that is your prerogative. I am not really down for my husband supporting an industry that flaunts and takes advantage of women so would discuss that with him.  I would ask him to respect how I feel.  Not be mad about anything but let him know what I think of it.  Generally, it shouldn't be that big of a deal to not go.  Like you said, it is not a bachelor party in which something was planned out of the ordinary for someone but just a guys get together.

My husband and his friends get together and play poker and have a few drinks.  Harmless.  All married men there that really don't want to create scenarios that upset their wives.  :>)

So, let him know how you feel and hopefully he will rise to your expectations.  good luck hon

[jessielynn2014]

I love how all these women are saying the their husbands/BF'S would NEVER Dare Step foot in a strip club. To me that's like saying "oh my kid would NEVER do that" and then they do it. It makes me laugh to see how naive some of you are. They are men who are human beings who are not perfect and you don't know what is running through their minds. Just saying.

[Tricia0818]

I don't think she is worried about cheating it's the fact that when your in a relationship the only person you should be wanting to see half naked is your other half. I'd flip if my husband went to a strip club, but he would never do that do. It's not always about if you can trust your husband or bf it's about respecting that fact that it may bother your wife or gf and not wanting to make them feel any certain way

[Trafina]

Lmao it's just a strip club I used to go with my sons father and it was pretty cool. They don't bother me at all. Whether we go together or not. I can do all the things strippers do and I'm not insecure. It doesn't mean he's cheating unless he's a sucky person And he actually is cheating.

[shelbynorma]

I find that very disrespectful to you, if my boyfriend was going to strip clubs I would probably completely freak out because you are his woman, he should only be looking at you, well I mean I guess its okay to look but looking at girls walking down the street is different than looking at half naked girls grinding on a stage in a sexual way... maybe buy some sexy lingerie and tell him to stop going because he has everything he needs to see at home

[Brez419]

I'd kill my husband if he did that he knows well I do not like him looking at other girls just like he wouldn't like me looking at other guys. You should tlk to him about it because to me that's disrespecting you by looking at other girls and not caring how you feel abt it.

[ajadams207]

Try talking to him about how it makes you feel. If that doesnt work then take action. If it were me I'd grab my friends and go to a male strip club. He gets to see boobs and you possibly get to see some nice tushes. If he finds out about your secret trip down there then itll just be a taste of his own medicine. If its okay for you to go then its okay for me obviously.

[KelBel987]

I'm really sorry - if it's any consolation my father-to-be (possibly if I am pregnant) is 2000 miles away and tries to talk to these girls on instagram AFTER he told me when we first met that he can't stand girls that post suggestive pictures and beg for attention on there…so don't worry, you're by no means alone on this one - it just makes it really hard and honestly I've felt alone in a lot of this so although a strip club (I'd literally cut his thingy off) isn't great, it could be worse :/

[Destynee2015]

Yeah my husband would never be caught in a strip club. He thinks its degrading to women also. Its disrespectful period. If he wants to go out with friends to relax, GO TO A BAR, but why choose somewhere to "hang with the fellas" at place with naked women?. Nonsense. Just my opinion.

[GabbertA]

My husbamd would never even dream of goimg to a strip club and neither would I. If he wants to see a woman he sees me and that is all. I would not be with him if he was going to strip clubs. In my eyes thats unfaithful and disrespectful. And he thinks the same way

[diachong]

Strip clubs aren't that bad. Most men that go sit at the bar or a table and don't even go near the stage because they don't want to pay lol they just watch the girls from far away. I honestly don't think it's a big deal, it's not a free for all in there, there are rules that are enforced. He probably just went to have a good time with his friends. I've been in several strip clubs and always have a great time, I actually think it's more fun for women because the girls are usually more relaxed with the rules and they are really cool, normal women if you talk to them. I If I were you I'd ask to go with him once so you can see what it's like, you might end up having fun, but if it really makes you that uncomfortable then talk to him about it.

[kklove2630]

I would go mad if it was my boyfriend and he knows I would. But on the other hand he wouldn't want me going to see a man strip. So were on the same page as each other.

[La_bby20]

Lol to comment above^^^^^^. Personally I don't like strips clubs they STINK! And I trust my boyfriend but MY opinion I think they should be off limits while pregnant. I mean we have never been nd been together 4 years I think its a distraction! But thts just my opinion.

[MommyOfTwoBoys05]

girl if yur bf is goin to strip clubs he wants to see sum *** n boobs hanging i would of left all his belongings right outside n change the lock lmao thats real rude of him

[pc010305]

Um not all men go to strip clubs. I know several men who find strip clubs degrading and disgusting. One of them being my husband.  He doesn't see the point of going to see some chicken strip that he can't touch. He's married so he gets everything he needs and then some at home.  I feel strip clubs reduce women to nothing but objects. And no respectable person belongs in a strip club. And I realize this is not a popular belief but it is mine and it will not be changed. If women want men to see them as people and worthy of respect they shouldn't take their clothes off for cash or for anyone but their mate.

[lytebabygurl]

Guys go to strip clubs..

Just because youre together, or pregnant doesnt mean he will drop the things he loves to do. Guys need free time and an outlet for stress too. If you expect him to want to spend all his free time with you right now...you might be in for a surprise! Guys tend to be told that having a baby will take away their freedom. So its best he enjoys himself now, rather than run off later by feeling obligated to give up things he loves to do.

[jessielynn2014]

She never said he lied or just didn't tell her. If my husband didn't tell me it'd be ok But I also trust my husband and know this pregnancy (well i have) has been rough on him and he deserves a guys night out.

[wiccanwitch7]

I'd kill my husband if he went and he respects my feelings on that

[Danni15]

He shouldn't had lied about it. Keeping it a secret is the same as lying. I'd be hurt at that. You should try and talk to him to see where his head is at

[vivianna37]

Going to gether or him telling her hes going is one thing. But him keeping it from her nd her finding out is another. Honestly if i found my bf was going to the strip club nd he didn't tell me id be pissed as well. Especially right now that im pregnant

[sam612512]

Im 20wks pregnant n my best friend and his girl are going to have their baby within the next couple of weeks and we just went to the strip club, theyre really not as bad as some people think, we go every year for each of our birthdays in the group and sometimes we just go for fun if its something your really concerned about i suggest asking if you can go with once just relax and see if you can enjoy yourself it will give you something to do together and show him that you dont have a problem with it and sometimes it can be a test to see if you trust him guys want to be trusted as much as we want to trust them (though theyd never admit to that) theres no harm in trying :)

[MamaJackson0522]

It's not that big of a deal

[Stephylynn01]

Are you guys expecting? Unfortunatelyy when young guys find out they are going to be a father they tend to become over whelmed with the situation and will try and drift away from the situation but if you guys are expecting a baby then hopefully when it gets closer to the baby being born maybe he will be opened to the whole thing.