Man Problems

[Meli26catracha]

So ladies I need some advise. My partner and I have been together for 9+ years, we have a 6 year old daughter and I'm 24 weeks pregnant with our second daughter. Last night I caught him messaging on Facebook with some girl and they were having a dirty conversation, he even sent her pics of him in his boxers and she did too. I did some digging and turns out this girl lives in mexico. When I confronted him this morning he said but she lives in Mexico so what? I am so disappointed and feel broken. I told him we are done and that I want him out. I talked to are friend about it and she thinks I over reacted. Now I'm not sure of what I should do. He says he is sorry and that I need to think about our girls but I feel he should've thought about them before he did what he did. I'm so confused. Thanks in advance for your advise.

[xcitednscaredmama]

Well done for being so strong and going through with the break up. Sounds like he got too comfortable, thinking you wouldn't leave him anyways because of your kids. I feel your pain though, I would feel devastated as well. Best of luck!

[NiniB3]

You did not overreact. That's cheating in my book and the tables were turned he would consider it an act of cheating as well. What an a-hole. I'm so sorry. The nerve that he thinks it's no big deal. What happens when he finds someone closer to home to do that with? What then? Sims like this is something that could escalate into a physical thing, maybe not with that chick but someone else. This is how this starts

[Meli26catracha]

Thank you ladies for all your advice. I will be sticking with what I said and he needs to find somewhere else to go. I am heart broken and disappointed in him. But I'm a very independent woman and I can pull through on my own. I never expected this from him, and you ladies are right how do I know this is the first time? It would be too hard to look past or move on especially since I won't be able to trust him anymore.

[dasart13]

Totally not overreacting. Had it been my bf and i, I'd have decked him in the face as soon as I saw him as well as burnt all his belongings in the front yard, and sold his Xbox and tv and kept the money and poured brake fluid on his truck. And since my house is in my name, I'd haven't him at the door with the eviction notice.

Do not take this lightly bc this is how it starts.

[Elee11mama]

As far as im concerned the only person i want my partner to be intimate with is me. And sharing photos and chatting like that is a form of intimacy, and is sexual at least. Thats not what you want from your partner, someone whos supposed to love u. Id be so upset and it would be hard to trust again.
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[angiejujuoscar1]

You didnt overreacted I would of did the same that is just disrespectful of him even sending another women pictures or talking to another women on that level...

[RaisingTwoSoon]

I agree in no shape or form was that ok for him to do that where ever she lived. Just wondering if he is just missing having so much sex. I wouldn't even know what to do in your situation but I believe you two can move past it. You didn't overreact that's for sure.

[boupidbird]

You have to decide what is best for you and your family. Yes it's cheating and yes its painful, but I know couples who have been able to move past stuff like this and still be happy together. (He even had been talking to their children about which parent they wanted to live with behind her back.) Good luck!

[Jensenjayxo]

You are not over reacting. You're most vulnerable during pregnancy first and second her living down the street or in Mexico is noooo excuse! I live in Ohio and when I first found out I was pregnant me and my bf would fight constantly to the point where I decided to move back to Los Angeles with my family. He's a tattooer with girls always hanging on him or flirting, I trust him a lot but there was one girl who would come hang out all the time driving two hours just to get a tattoo I didn't think anything of it until now I moved back to Ohio so we could work things out for our son and she decides to post him on her Instagram he blocked her on Instagram and his phone right away and swore she was just a obsessed with him. Point being she became an argument for about a month till now I finally decided to drop it, she's not allowed to get tattooed by him and supposedly she has a bf now, even though I'm always with him and he wouldn't cheat on me it still bugs the **** out of me. But at the end of the day you and your babies are what matters most and you must follow your right sense of mind rather than your heart at times. You don't deserve that and your friend is obviously not very supportive. Best of luck! And stay strong!

[rabeccarice]

Totally did not over react. That's cheating even if they are not phisiclly touching

[Sarasplash99]

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[Sarasplash99]

I don't think you overreacted at all. That's pretty shallow & insensitive of him as well as showing a secretive tendency that would alarm me greatly. The fact that he had a desire to do that in the first place is off putting,  let alone that he did it and actualized it into reality. Whether it was seemingly harmless to him because of the distance, I wouldn't want to be a partner with a quality like that

[NeolaF]

I think you did the right thing Me and my partner are having our second child and if I found out he was doing stuff like that I would do the exact same that isn't showing you any respect. If he is doing things like that what else is he doing???!!! Look I don't mind guys watching adult films but anything with a real woman chatting is as good as cheating.