Advice please

[ninak01]

Hi! I am 30 weeks pregnant. I have not been speaking to some of my relatives for 5-6 years now. The hospital i go to my cousin is going there as well. She is pregnant too. I was at the hospital for my scan when i saw her there. But she didnt see me. The only thing i am worried about is that i do not want to see her again there otherwise there will be arguements and all sorts. I dont know when she is due. I dont know whether to tell the hospital about this so they can put me in different ward when i have my baby or change hospital.
Please advice

[ninak01]

Thank you for your advice guys! I really appreciate it. I was only worried because it has been quite long since we last spoke and don't really know what sort of reaction they will give me. It could be  just in my mind that she will argue. I wanted to avoid her because i dont want any fights or arguements.  I am prepared to talk....and i am happy for her that she is having a baby.

[RockRose]

I agree.  I can't imagine living in a community where I would run into someone that I couldn't be in the same room with without causing a physical or verbal fight to occur.

You will have babies the same age,  you're living in the same community, you WILL run into her.

I think you should send her a note or a message and just break the ice.  

Unless she's crazy and violent and has a criminal record for assault and is actually likely to assault you for no reason.   Because there are those crazy people who will punch you in the neck for just standing there.

[specialmom]

Whew, it's been 5 to 6 years.  Time to get over things.  If you just rise above and 'don't go there' there shouldn't be any drama.  It takes two people for drama.  and your demeanor and the way you conduct yourself often says if you are wanting drama or not.  If it were me, I'd not even worry about this.  If you see her, just say congratulations on your baby and take care and move along.  

It's odd to me that after all those years you think there will be a fight.  That's the kind of grudge and anger that eats your soul.  Let it go dear.  and just be a happy person that doesn't have to duck out of somewhere or hide because there might be a fight.  That is no way to live.

good luck

[ninak01]

Yeah i just really want to avoid her. I think i will speak to my midwife and see what she says

[bump2015]

I don't think the hospital can put you in a different ward. If the family problems are so severe you haven't talked to them for so long, there's no need to start now regardless of the situation. And you may not be able to change hospitals without changing obs.