Insensitive partner

[Agnes_J]

Hello, i'm 36 years old, with my first child. I'm 11-weeks pregnant. Pregnancy was planned, and well thought through. I've been with my partner for over 3 years. My pregnancy is not an easy one. From week 7 we started to have problems - random gushing bleeding. Not just spotting. I already been to ER twice, had 3 ultrasounds and many blood tests. I'm concerned high risk. I have two blood clogs, and an fibroid. Long story short, my partner started to treat me as if my condition is nothing special. He doesn't believe the doctor who send me on bedrest for days. I'm suppose to rest and not do much, but my bf thinks that's silly. I have two dogs and when i ask him to walk them every so often he argues with me, as if i am not pregnant or tired. I'm very upset. He seems very selfish, and showing a complete new sight of a personality i never seen before.
Where this lack of compassion is coming from?? I talked to him few times, but he doesn't seem to care. Anyone else have same problem?

[Agnes_J]

that's wonderful to hear Kathy. I really hope my man keeps his promise. I love him very much and he adores me as well, part of the problem as well is the fact that he is a very logical extreme introvert. Plus a man. So he really needs to be told. He sees a world as a set black&white rules instead of adapting to given situation. So often he comes accross as unsensitive.
So we willl see, i really hope that i see improvment.
I also hope that our baby will be fine. This constant rollercoster, bleeding, visits to hospital are working ne out.

[Kathy2015]

I had to do nearly the same thing. My bf admits to not taking my feelings seriously.  At first, he acted like I should be able to do anything I did before, but now he sees the dark circles, sleepless nights and sleepy days, the way im out of breath just climbing the stairs slowly. The cramping from some even small movements and he has been getting better.

[Agnes_J]

Thank you ladies :)
Quick update from today: he bought me flowers and apologized. He admitted to being unsensitive. We talked and i told him that i need him to step up to the plate. I explained to him how i feel about my changing body and that i wish i could be old myself, but that's not a case for now. I also assured him that i understand how hard is for a man to keep up, or even to relate. It's overwhelming, and idea of a baby is scary as well.
I give him a choice, and made it clear that if he doesn't support me he will be out of the picture, because baby comes first over his pride. He understood and said he will help me and support me.
I guess time will only tell :)

[KimCobb]

Wow your partner and my hubby must be related. I don't think men understand the changes we go through while we are pregnant. Men can be so inconsidered.  They do not understand our energy level is very low. I wish some of these men could walk a day in our shoes. Keep your head up because trust me you are not alone!

[cinnyshell]

Men do get it. Good, decent ones do. Sorry hun. He sounds pretty insensitive. You should tell him how you feel and if he doesn't care it may be time to rethink your relationship.

[Drcsue]

I understand. Men just don't get it sometimes. I'm high risk as well and my DH is the same way. He thinks I'm superwoman. Lol.