famliy drama and how to deal

[suggsbaby]

Ladies my soon to be husbands grandfather passed a couple weeks ago. I was there for the family the best I could but with the family during the wake for I had to work. But I did go after work for a bit to visit with the dead. Well his grandmother just today told me that running off to work was wrong that I should of been there for him. But ladies being that I am not in the family I couldn't get the time off for, and even if I could I get the time off no one was there to cover for me. Ladies what do I do can anyone help.

[1Desiree]

Have you been together when another family member has passed? Only asking to see if you know how he deals with death. For example, it doesn't affect my husband. Myself, it tears me apart. I can't handle death I literally break down for weeks.

This could be just how he deals with it. Try to comfort him and be there for him as much as you can. If he brings it up or anyone in the family does just explain that you wish you could have been there but your work doesn't allow leave for your fiance's family and you could lose your job if you didn't go in.

This isn't something you could help and they shouldn't be mad at you.

[suggsbaby]

But he's been I guess u can say giving me the cold shoulder ever since that day but I thought it was just me being moody with being pregnant and all

[suggsbaby]

Yes and since the passing I having brought the issues up cause I didn't want to up set him with the memory of his grandfather for they was close.

[1Desiree]

I have been in the same situation. Due to not being married they wouldn't give me time off. I showed up after I got off work. I agree with above post, she is probably upset at this time. You did what you could and hopefully she will see that once the initial shock wears off.

[RockRose]

Was it her husband who passed away?  She may just be really grieving and is looking for somewhere to put her pain.  

How does your fiance feel about it?