advice?

[sp5609]

How do you deal with a partner who can't stop drinking?

[anwhatin1]

Well my husband is an alcoholic. He tends to binge every 3 months. If he is a alcoholic then he will care what it does to u when sober but when the addiction part kicks in he doesn't care anymore. They think they can just have 1 or 2 drinks and they will stop  but they can't.  He needs professional help AA meetings or something but he will have to want to go.  It is a hard road and u can't except what he does otherwise he will continue or get worse and u will feel hurt more and more.
Your trust will go out the window for him and it will be very hard for u to get it back if u ever do. I do not trust mine with certain things bc of his drinking.
If he is willing to get help and really tries u will be okay but if he doesn't want to put in the effort then u may have to let him go.
I have been lucky he wants to change and works really hard too continue to be sober. They r never cured even if they haven't drank in 20 yrs it is always there and they have to choose not to pick up that drink.
U could go to an Alan on meeting to get more understanding

[KAnuCmEY]

Try talking to them about it. My husband thought he would continue to celebrate he birthday for weeks on end and kept getting drunk. He was becoming mean, so I peed in his whiskey bottle. Told him he would need to find another place to get drunk at or he was going to risk drinking pee every time he wanted a shot.

[Buzzbeemommy]

Both of my parents and my older brother all have drinking problems. My parents couldn't control it as we grew up and it isn't okay, they don't know how hard they made our childhood. If your partner has a drinking problem you can start by explaining how it makes you feel, but it may only get worse and they may get defensive. If there's a true problem it won't stop until they realize it needs to which is usually too late, not always. So I guess start by addressing the situation then go from there

[AmeriaMae]

If your partner is drinking to the point it makes you feel like it's becoming an issue I would first start out by trying to tell them your concern for it.  If you have children or you are pregnant at this time and it's bothering you,  tell your partner that for the best of your new family that maybe they should lay off and clean up a but to better the future and life of your child.  If it gets to the point that any of your concern is being ignored (still continues to drink a lot)  and it worrys you so much that you have to babysit them.  Then maybe you should leave because you shouldn't have to babysit someone when you have a baby on the way or kids cause they should be 1# priority and first thing to worry about.  Not an adult with responsibility.  Just my view on advice!  Hope things get better (: