Need an outsiders opinion!

[Lil1213]

My in-laws had their baby shower a few days ago, my husband and I were not invited (I could care less) my problem is that they told the whole family they invited us and we just ignored them, which in turn makes us look like ********!! Everybody is telling me to just kill 'em with kindness and invite them to my shower! I'm pretty much dead set on not telling them about mine!! I almost want to call them out on their bull in front of the family! Is that a little too much?

[RockRose]

Lil,  this is kind of bigger than one baby shower - I think you need to know why you weren't invited.

If you really and truly are baffled about why a portion of the family doesn't like you,  you probably should have your husband find out.  It may be that they truly believe something that isn't true,  or it may be that you are unaware that you are stepping on someone's sensitivity,  etc.

When people treat you in a way that you really can't figure out,  you need to have them tell you.

Best wishes.

[PoeticPep]

Dnt be nasty in return bt if u dnt want to dnt invite them to ur shower. There's nothing wrong with that. Ppl won't always get along with their in laws. It's life. Enjoy urs.

[Amers0808]

Wow, they sound like my in laws. Glad I'm not the only one who doesn't get along with their in laws. My shower is the day after they leave for vacation and my brother in law just got into it the other day about and I told him that I wasn't going to rearrange my life to accommodate them. Anyway, I would invite them and be the bigger person. Good luck!

[lidilou]

I feel like I typed this post myself!! I have such trouble by my BIL and his wife! Ugh. Enough of about me. I would invite them to your shower. Be the bigger person, that will irk them.  Also, if you feel the need to call them out on their BS do it in privatw and calmly. Nothing irritates people more then when they know your pissed and you talk calmly. Good luck!

[Danni15]

My family use to do that and at times still do. I don't get mad when it happens, just invite them to events of mine. Kill them with kindness. They'll look really crazy in the end.

[momof3tobe2015]

I would still invite them .. they will feel awkward not you guys and with that being said you are the bigger person in that matter . If they even show up right? I'd be embarresed if I were them .

[reubaby]

I would invite them. Then once it gets brought up about their Baby shower, and why didn't you go, speak the truth. "We didn't know about it. We never got an invite". Then leave it at that. Im inviting some "friends" to mine. Even though they stopped inviting us to their events. Killing them with kindness. Its funnier cause then they look like the *****. Plus more gifts for your baby. :)

[Olimaria]

and i think ill do the same think wont invite them to my baby shower, and say they didnt make it. Or invite them very last minute.

[Olimaria]

i cant believe it! almost same happened to me. My in laws didnt invite us to their wedding, which was supposed to be this sunday. She got pregnant and they had to do it quickly. We found out about a few weeks ago but didnt say anything ... Wanted to see how far they can go without inviting us. And my husband couldnt hold it anymore and  finally told his brother he was a **** and we wont come anyways. Now apparently they're cancelling and moving it to a different date and invitating us. In laws are terrible.

Now they told everybody they are moving it coz we cant make it. How rude!!! We can make it but we werent invited. Simply cant people why people would behave like this we are still family.

[Lil1213]

Thanks ladies!! Lol I know what the "right" thing to do is, there's just this portion of the family that for some secret unknown reason they don't like me! I've quietly ignored it but it's like ever since I got pregnant I can't keep my mouth shut I have no filter on certain things..

[nikiboo1024]

I hate my in laws too. Don't invite them and then tell everyone you invited them and they didn't respond haha. Just like they did to you.

[kimbo2727]

I would talk to them face to face and tell them what you really think. I would say to them why tell the family you invited us when you didn't

[applejack7]

Don't stoop down to their level. If you call them out in front of the family your just as bad as they are. They didn't invite you so you don't invite them. But granted I don't get along with my in laws either

[Lil1213]

Its my husbands brother and his wif