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Overly Touchy
I really like my personal space & there is one person in particular that enjoys invading it...the mil. She wants to hold hands, have her arm around me, kiss my face, UGH. I've tried to nicely let her know I'm not into all that physical-ness, & what really grosses me out is the fact that she holds my husband's head & kisses him on the lips-not like a peck-like a 3 second with Mississippis! I couldn't even hide my reaction to that, he could tell I didn't think that was normal...anyway, like I said, she enjoys making me uncomfortable, likes to make a show of it, & I just know she'll be all smothery with my baby (the one she's so disappointed is a girl!) She's all about looking good in front of others while causing drama & playing victim.
SO...question is, does anyone have this issue & a plan or just an idea for me as to how to handle keeping her lips off babies face for awhile? It grosses me out. People are germy & I'm not comfortable with fingers & mouths around my babies mouth! Trying to think of a non-bitchy way to say "Keep-Off!" LOL Thanks for any suggestions!
SO...question is, does anyone have this issue & a plan or just an idea for me as to how to handle keeping her lips off babies face for awhile? It grosses me out. People are germy & I'm not comfortable with fingers & mouths around my babies mouth! Trying to think of a non-bitchy way to say "Keep-Off!" LOL Thanks for any suggestions!
Yes! The doctor says so! I'm goin with it!
I hadn't met anyone who kissed their parents on the lips as an adult until my husband & it's just absolutely repulsive in my opinion. Even worse, she doesn't kiss his brother like that! Just her obviously favored baby. I've never been around someone as needy & touchy as her I just can't stand it. She treats him like a lover, not a son. He didn't think it was odd until I gently pointed out NO ONE acts like that with their child but her. He was so embarrassed but I couldn't deal with it & he needed to see how abnormal her behavior is. She still leaves her undies & bra on the couch where he always sits when we go over to her place. Everytime! She's a headcase. And unfortunately she's been so completely dependent on him & has him brainwashed that she really is the victim in all situations for so long that he still runs to her more than he should have to. I try not to cause to many waves but as his wife, it's hard to put up with sometimes!
I hadn't met anyone who kissed their parents on the lips as an adult until my husband & it's just absolutely repulsive in my opinion. Even worse, she doesn't kiss his brother like that! Just her obviously favored baby. I've never been around someone as needy & touchy as her I just can't stand it. She treats him like a lover, not a son. He didn't think it was odd until I gently pointed out NO ONE acts like that with their child but her. He was so embarrassed but I couldn't deal with it & he needed to see how abnormal her behavior is. She still leaves her undies & bra on the couch where he always sits when we go over to her place. Everytime! She's a headcase. And unfortunately she's been so completely dependent on him & has him brainwashed that she really is the victim in all situations for so long that he still runs to her more than he should have to. I try not to cause to many waves but as his wife, it's hard to put up with sometimes!
My mil used to be that way with my husband. I got him to see how weird it was. Asked him if he ever saw any other parents kissing their grown children on the mouth. He knew it made me very uncomfortable and he made small adjustments to avoid her intimacy. That was years ago no thank goodness so sje doesn't even try that anymore. If she would have attempted to kiss me on my face I might have pushed her back as a reflex. I also have slight issues with personal space haha. As far as the kids go...she used to kiss my oldest on the lips and I think he inherited my personal space thing amd pulls away before she can kiss him haha. Not sure how to prevent it besides flat out telling her to keep her lips to herself...inform her of the fact that you don't like it and then list a few factual reasons...such as the mouth being one of the most germ infested areas...good luck
Yeah on the lips is a big concern. I'd say the doctor advices against kisses on mouth. Lol and what I would do after my MIL would visit and kiss my baby all over her face is clean baby's face after or give her a bath. :) good luck!
Wait...do we have the same MIL?!?! We've just cut contact. I don't think hubby is even going to inform her when baby is born. She likes to pinch her adult children's butts so I get the gross/awkward factor. She does things to purposely gross out her kids..like make out in front of them..then acts all shocked when I give my husband any sort of playful attention. Very odd. Put your foot down now before your girl arrives or she will walk all over you. Good luck
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