Venting

[Neshias90]

So my bf broke up with me again bc I went off on him about our son being hungry. I have never seen a guy more interested in pleasing his friends than taking care of his own family. As a parent your child should be you first priority! And I was told I'm selfish....didn't know being concerned for your child's well being was being selfish. Now we have like 23 days before our daughter is born and he tells me he no longer wants to be with me again smh men

[Neshias90]

Ok I have never been in the position where my child hasn't had food mor have I had to go off on his father about it either and this was the first time for both I have money and food assistance so my child is never hungry but that day I had a bill due and since I was out of money I asked his father to give us money to go to the store and instead he was chasing behind his friend running behind his friend always an issue but my son being hungry never was so the first time he didn't do I was highly upset but we are good now thank you ladies so much for your advice we are no longer together I forgave him but I will never know if will happen again or not and I'm very rude and mean when it comes to my son bc he my first priority and I always say if you can't provide don't have them and I will do whatever it takes to make sure he is taken care of now I will not be begging him as father to do for his kids bc he's a man and he should know what they need and if he doesn't do it then child support it is ☺ again thank you ladies so much I really appreciate your opinions.

[RockRose]

Well I can't tell if this is one of those temporary break ups where you fight and make up and fight and make up,  but moving forward from here - with or without him - you need to have a strategy where there aren't times in your life where you have zero food in the house.  So that means you had no food either,  and you're pregnant,  and no way to get more (maybe no transportation or money) or neighbors who could run you to the store or lend you a couple eggs and a couple pieces of bread.

That's living way too close to the edge - and it's upsetting that now your baby had gone without food.

Best wishes in moving forward.

[specialmom]

Well, leaving your child hungry is neglect.  That's when he doesn't 'hang out with you or your son' but he gets a second job or third job or whatever it takes to feed his family.  

It's not about spending time with friends.  the bigger picture is you have a hungry child.  

Now that is gone, it falls on you. I'd get child support and as much as possible but you are going to have to work so that your poor baby doesn't go hungry.  What kind of job training do you have or can I help you with some ideas that you can get some so that employment goes well and you can provide properly for your children?

The man is gone.  Now the strong woman has to step up and take care of business.  Good luck

[Neshias90]

He told me he didn't want me bc I don't appreciate him and I act as if he's not a good father yes he does provide for our son but he would rather see if his best friend is good before his son is and that's what bothers me. My son went to sleep hungry and it pissed me off bc I was telling him all day we were out of food and he did nothing about it. His friend has been an issue since I got pregnant he tells him he needs to be single and other things

[mommaDof3]

I'm sorry to say this but I think you would be better off without him. If his reaction is to break up with you when you tell him his son is hungry then don't give him the time of day anymore.  I went through this with my son and his dad. Everything and everyone else was always  more important. It will most likely always be that way unfortunately.

[specialmom]

Oh my gosh.  Disturbing.  He went out with buddies and spent money while your son was hungry?  Is that what I'm getting?  Unacceptable.  Hungry children are unacceptable.  Most parents would give the shirt off their backs for their babies.  I'd starve before my kids went hungry!!  

You are not selfish to see something very wrong with this picture.  You are trying to protect your son as you see him basically neglected by his father.  

And now he is leaving you.  Great.  Go to court and get yourself child support big time (as much as you can get). And then you need to get a plan together to support yourself.  Do you have any job training or a career to go to?  

[RockRose]

Sorry this happened.

I can't really tell the details, though.  What would he say happened that caused this breakup?