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There is nothing in the world that I want more then to be a mother. And after 4 miscarriages I am so happy that I am 17 weeks pregnant. But my hormones have taken over so much that I absolutely feel like I hate my fiancé we fight everyday I say in believable things to him that are hurtful and I can't take them back. I say stuff that should never be said and I love him so much. But I feel like everytime I am around here this demone comes around and it's nasty. This baby has been the best but worst thing in my entire life because I can't even be with my fiancé anymore. I don't know what to do I can't control it and he doesn't deserve is so I left him. I am heart broken but when he text me all I can do is be mean to him. And I can't tell him the things I really want to say. And even if I try to tell him how I reel he is so angry because I have been so mean to him that it's hard for him to sympathetic to me. :( im so lost and confused
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I would say he needs a break. Get into a calm and mindset you can and ask him if he would like a weekend away or something. Tell him you realise you have been stressing out and possibly over reacting and see what he wants. I got like this early on and a weekend of time to himself with no stress helped a lot. Remember your hormones make you over react but you do need something to set you off. Chances are he is being defensive and not dealing well just like you. See what he needs and wants to brake escalating tension

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I've been kinda doing the same thing. But to my mom. This is her first grandbaby so she is beyond excited and I have been nothing but awful to her. And I know I am and I can't help it one bit. I feel terrible for her but it's so hard to control,so I understand. I wish the best for you :)
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I think hormones play a big part but also feel like you need to take some responsibility  for your actions and be careful with the things you say to the one you love, words hurt, no matter what anyone says they do sometimes  I would rather get hit than have mean things said to me, if your not careful the words you use  and things you say can very well end a relationship.  
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Take a screen shot of this and send it to him I think that'll help and also just try to be calm and think before you speak me and mines argue from time to time but I wouldn't trade him for anything
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well you are pregnant first off so your hormones are on a huge rampage. basically it really isnt your fault for your emotions a lot of women even cry or get angry for no reason at all. they dont know why. also having 4 miscarriages is not easy to deal with so this pregnancy working out is a good thing. but to run from a problem instead of working through it is not the solution. think of your soon to be baby. you think the baby wants to grow up and be in seperate homes. a lot of pregnant women get like that with husbands or fiances or boyfriends because pregnancy is an emotional stage in life. men do not know what women go through and they never will know. he needs to take a deep breath and try his best to be there for you he has to understand you are pregnant your hormones arent in balance. you yourself need to talk to your ob and see how she can help calm the hormones. running away from the problem is never the solution and him getting mad for your pregnancy issues isnt wise. he is gonna have to understand sooner or later that it is part of your pregnancy.
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I use to be like that when I was pregnant my mom told me it was my hormones but I just thought maybe things weren't gonna work out and when I had my daughter we don't really get along buy we try
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