Problems with the father

[jcu442]

Hello, I am 36 weeks 5 days along and unfortunately the father of my child refuses to accept responsibility for our unborn daughter. He feels as if she's not his problem because he didn't want her. I am assuming he won't show up for her birth because he hasn't showed up for anything thus far. How do I go after him for support without his signature on the birth certificate? Is that relative? This is my first baby so I'm a stranger to the legalities.

[RockRose]

bholcomb,  I'm sorry you're in this situation.  If you're really comfortable distancing yourself from him - and sometimes that's best - this works.

But I've never heard of a case where a man could just waltz in there and announce he was renouncing his responsibilities.  Otherwise,  courtrooms would be stacked 9 deep with deadbeats who don't feel like paying for child support.

As I understand it,  if you try to get various welfare benefits - medicaid,  food stamps,  etc,  they will go after him for child support.

[bholcomb]

I live in the US and have been to a lawyer and he has giving up all rights to my son. So therefore I can't seek anything from him and that's fine. I didn't push it because he aand hisfamily is crazy.

[RockRose]

bholcomb,  I don't know where you live,  but in the US a dad can't just sign away his responsibility.  If you are giving the baby up for adoption,   he can sign away his rights.

if you have a new partner who is trying to adopt your child as his own,  the biodad can sign away his rights.

He can't just do it if there's no one there to pick up the slack.  He can't do it against your will.

You need to seek legal advice and get child support from this guy.  Somehow,  I think you've been misinformed.

jcu,  sue for child support.  

[specialmom]

I would require him to do a paternity test and go after him for child support.  I sincerely doubt he'll all of a sudden have interest in being in her life . . .   I wouldn't worry about that.  But he has a financial responsibility.  It won't be much as it is based on income and I can tell from your description he doesn't have much.  He sounds like a low life.  But it will be something to help and it is his duty.  good luck

[jcu442]

Apparently you can't say the word s u c k s lol. I'm sorry that you had that experience with your baby's father. Men are so terrible at times.

[jcu442]

Damn, that *****, I am definitely not gonna tell him that he can sign away his rights. Hopefully he doesn't know that's an option. He deserves to pay every penny for our daughter that the law requires.

[bholcomb]

You get a lawyer and file for child support and the judge will court order a dna test. He can sign his rights over and then you wouldn't get anything. My son is 4 and his dad didn't want him and signed away his rights and I get nothing from him.