NEEDING ADVICE & ENCOURAGEMENT (Please don't judge (

[Soncerae2007]

I have been dating this guy for 4 years. I just found out a week ago that he has been cheating on me for the past 3 months and now this other female is also Pregnant! This has to be the embarrassing feeling because I'm am 11 weeks and my second pregnancy. My son is 13. I thought that I could enjoy b this with him but come b to find out he is no good and is not concerned about me and has even questioned paternity! ! I'm so pissed I could committ a crime but he is not worth it. I even considered not having this child because I don't want any ties to him!! I am confused and feel so betrayed! Never did I imagine been pregnant with another woman by the same man...smh What should I do everyone??

[specialmom]

I just want to say that I am very very sorry for this situation.  What is supposed to be a happy time in your life just ruined by his actions.  I was going to mention adoption but see that you are keeping the baby.  You were a single mama with your 13 year old so know what is involved and I'm sure you'll do fine. Its hard to be tied to a jerk like him as you will be forever, however, your love of your child will outweigh that.  You just have to let go of the bad feelings and treat him like a business partner.  I've had people in business I didn't like but I keep that to myself an get the job done.  That's how this will be for you.

but it's hard and I'm sorry he let you down. good luck with everything

[Soncerae2007]

Thanks. That is the same thing that I said and now that I am moving on to focus on my child, I feel so much better

[Soncerae2007]

Thanks so much for the advice!  After all he has put me through he is still trying to play games by calling and continuing to lie about this other relationship. Smh even though they are on Facebook together, he continues to lie! I've realized that he has no heart and I have decided that it is best to keep quiet. It is working so far and I even have him blocked from my phone. He always finds a way to call smh, this man is ridiculous. Also I have ALL of his clothes and shoes and he is trying to get them. He knows that he will not wear anything I have bought for another woman. Thanks so much for the advice I will definitely keep quiet and let him suffer. I am keeping my baby by the way and I couldn't be happier :-)

[EmPat]

*hugs* Firstly, take deep calming breaths. Don't do anything rash because he is not worth it.

As for the baby,u must remember that the baby is as much YOURS as it is his. So dun let the baby b a representation of him and his inability to keep his pants on. Instead the baby should represent the good times YOU had with him as well as represent the strength YOU posess to overcome such an obstacle.

Whatever decision you make, make it for YOURSELF not for him. Hang in there love!

"A woman w/o a man is like a fish without a bicycle"  

-Gloria Steinem

[simple_pearl]

Hi dear, im so sorry to hear this. Really not an ideal situation for any woman. I completely understand why you feel the way you towards him. Please remember one thing God has given yoy that child amd you have to say Thank you and embrace. Yhe best you can do for yourself and your baby is distance yourself from this guy. Dont harrass him or ask him obvious things. Just let him be. Tell him he will get partenity if thats what he wants. And KEEP QUIET. He will come crawling to you one day. Talking from experience. Thats just how predictable men are.  The more u quier amd away he will wonder. Enjoy your pregnancy and dont worry about that other woman you have no business with her. Even if he chooses to be with her its fine let it be.

[ashley3232]

You are better off without him! If he cheated on you he will more than likely cheat on her as well! If he is already thinking the baby is not his i wouldn't even.include him in any information. You will be fine without him and i hope karma comes back to bite him!  

[ioanawillie]

U àhave to think that  if ubhave this baby what future  is he going to have?wont he feel whitout a dad....is his mistake that  his dad dont have any limit? Ask your self...i was in the same situation  and i did what was the best  thinking  abouth  the future