Seriously.

[marindamqz]

My sister was dating our youth pastor at church. Got pregnant. He left during the pregnancy, came back, and left again. Everyday he'd come pick up their son covered in hickies just to tick her off. She got back with him. 3 weeks ago, he beat the crud out of her. Took her to the hospital, got pictures and paperwork, everything. Last week, she went back with him. She said "he didn't hit me". She's 24, jobless, doesn't even get WIC or government help because she says she "doesn't like to talk to people". I provide for her and her son, and myself, my daughter, and unborn child. We live at home, I pay the light and half the utilities. I told my mom and older brother, let her leave. She keeps coming back because she's ALWAYS been that spoiled brat. She ALWAYS got what she wanted growing up, I was always left to fend for myself. And because of that, my mind was 40 years old when I was just 14. She comes back because she knows the door will always be open to her. And she does it again. By "does it", I mean hits my mom, my little sister, calls them every name in the book. She wanted to start her own gymnastics business, so I got her the building and over $2000 in equipment. And all she has to say is "sell it" because she doesn't wanna do it anymore. Now her pastor boyfriend comes to the house, yells at my family, takes off his shirt and threatens to fight us. Stands in the street like a fool yelling at the house. I live there, I'm 6 months pregnant, and my 18 month old lives there. My family keeps threatening a restraining order but they never go through with it. So my question is, can I file a restraining order myself? Since I'm in harms way and my daughter? I live in Texas.

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Sorry.  Your sister sounds sick and that is how you need to think of her.  Really.  

Listen, you were an adult at 14 . . .   so you know what to do.  You must head out into the world to fend for yourself.  I'm not sure how a restraining order will work for you or if that will solve your problem.  But living on your own, in your own place . .    THAT will.  This should be your goal.  

Your family will not turn their back on her and I'm not saying they should or shouldn't.  But you can go elsewhere.

And I see in your last post that you have.  good.  Hope it is peaceful hon.  Enjoy having your own place!

[marindamqz]

He was actually dismissed from his position as youth pastor, now hrs a regular person. I understand that they want my sister and don't want her on the wrong path, but it's putting me and my daughter out. So she came back today, and I'm getting my stuff out.

[RockRose]

I agree you should get out.  They don't care that they're being threatened,  they just want your sister back,  and I kind of get that as a parent.  Sad but true.

But really,  a youth pastor?  Just out of curiosity,  is he actually an employed youth pastor in a real church,  or is he simply trained as a youth pastor but he doesn't work in a church or he works in a weirdo church with almost no followers?

Best wishes.  I hope you get out soon and are safe.

[marindamqz]

That's what I thought. Screw the restraining order, I'm better off getting out. I told my family last night that if she comes back, I'm leaving.

[Chima7]

It looks like you're going to need to find a safer place to live. Your family has made it crystal clear that they will always let her come back regardless of the danger she brings with her. You have no other choice but to find a new place to live. You shouldn't live with them anyway because you need a safe and quiet place for your baby. That's literally the only thing that matters, and this current environment will always be the exact opposite of that.

[July2015Baby]

Yes cuz he has already been physically voilent and showing up to YOUR home making threats. Im from texas as well and yes you can do that. If he physically hurt your sister the police and put a protective order on him without your sisters concent and he wont be allowed contact with her. And im sorry, but this is a youth pastor? None of the youth pastors at my church act like that. Maybe it is something you can bring up with the pastors at his church.

[tinaabinaa]

What kinda youth pastor does these things? Girl, get out of there and file. You don't need to be around that nor your kids... sorry ur in that situation

[kays01]

Omg you poor thing!! Please file, they both need to learn a lesson

[Nessaa23]

File file file go to court sometimes their is a small fee but totally worth it.id google it .i live in cali so laws are different .Your endangering your child by him being around him/her and you also cause ur pregnant.so id defin get one so u can atleast be in peace and for your sister ,karma ...god will do his justice so dont even worry about her.just try and stay clear of everyone n the drama...

[MarieK0315]

I will seriously file the restraining order without thinking it twice. I'm in shock of how he can call himself a youth pastor and act like this. NO WAY! He has nothing christian inside of him. God be with you hun and for the safety of your baby's and yourself do what's right by keeping him away. Good luck :)

[marindamqz]

It's sickening. But my family just now told me that the door will be open for her to come back. That REALLY bothers me. It's not fair to me that she's always getting away with everything. EVERYBODY provides for her because she won't do it herself. And they flat put told me that it's their house and they'll keep the door open to her. She's hit them, disrespected them. He's yelled at my mom to her face. He's stepped foot in our house to disrespect my family, and my sister is all for it.

[Ella3823]

yes do it without thinkn twice what type of a pastor would do that seriously??so sorry about all d troubles u r going through..

[amberlynn15]

i just wanna know what kind of youth pastor would do that. how sad. but yes you should be able to & you should definitely file one.

[lilbitts]

Yes you should be able too