Testing my Fiance

[AsadaLove]

My fiance has always sucked at answering his phone. I urge him to keep is phone off of silent or vibrate  . I have about 2 weeks until I'm due so I decided to randomly text him when he was out with the boys saying "My water broke" and I timed it out to see how long it would take him to answer(which I'm surprised he answered in less than 10 minutes and it only took one text and no call) He thinks I'm crazy for doing that but I fear when the day comes he won't answer in time. Is it wrong to do that? He sees it as crying wolf but I see it as being prepared.

[AsadaLove]

He is way better with kids than I am and he has even taken in kids and still takes care of them .His maturity level isn't the question. I never have my phone turned up but I stay aware .He just doesn't listen out .Most of the time I have to tell him his phone is ringing. After so many years in the army I think he is a little hard of hearing

[RockRose]

It seems like you can "test" him without saying your water broke.

Just text him and say just checking to see if I can get ahold of you - please text back now k?  

[specialmom]

He doesn't seem very responsible.  Do you live together?  

I wouldn't text him or call him as a test though as that is the 'boy who cried wolf' thing and he will perhaps not believe you when it does really happen.

My hospital gave me a pager to give my husband.  It's separate from his phone and it goes off for one reason and one reason only----  I'm having the baby.

can you look into that?  

But I worry about his maturity level in general if he is often 'out with the boys' doing his own thing.  He may not be that into being a daddy at this point in his life in which case it is ALWAYS going to be hard to have him make you and the child a priority enough to watch his phone closely for your call.

By the way, I NEVER have my ringer on.  But my phone is with me.  It will vibrate when it rings and you can kind of hear a vibration if you don't feel it.  The problem isn't that it is on vibrate or not ringing.  He's just not answering.  I don't miss calls and if I do happen to not catch it when it rings, I see it within a few minutes.  He's just not wanting to be connected with you that way.  which stinks.  good luck

[AsadaLove]

My problem is that he keeps his phone on vibrate or silent. And doesn't answer for a long time .It usually takes like 5 calls to get an answer .first it never bothered me but now that in almost due it really makes me mad .especially when I know he's home playing the game or something and has his phone turned down.

[AnnieBrooke]

the word the software blocked is the same one you used, sucked, except I put an s on the end instead of the ed.  Guess that makes it obscene.  lol

[AnnieBrooke]

Sheez, I would be torqued off if my husband did that to me.  Yes, you say your boyfriend ***** at answering the phone, but really, he probably doesn't leap to answer telemarketers or his sister, but will certainly know the difference in importance if a call indicates you are in labor.  I think you should trust that he knows the difference and is acting on it.  Even *if* he is generally very casual about answering the phone.

[yesi19expecting]

I see it as a test like u said. And I think he passed and will answer u on time again