Trying to teach my boyfriend a lesson?!

[dremarie13]

I kicked my boyfriend out yesterday. I'm tired of him trying to bring me down. Yesterday we had a tiny argument but then he started to call me names and calling me immature and how I'm not ready to be a mom and im going to be a bad parent and he's gonna take our baby away from me and just alot of mean stuff, I tryed to ignore him but then he started to throw papers and books at me. He always gets that way whenever we fight but he always takes it to far and I'm tired of him feeling the need to make a big scen and trying to get physical with me especially when I'm 33 weeks pregnant. So i kicked him out and this morning he came back but i told him he can't stay and I'll only let him in the house if he gets his stuff and leave without making a scene and he did. I'm always the one crying back to him making things right for his mistakes but this time I'm putting my foot down and just for once want him to realize that I'm not gonna let him mistreat anymore and that he needs to realize how wrong he is. We been together for 4 years and im not gonna lie in the past we did get physical a couple of times but since i got pregnant we been happier but when he gets mad he goes back to his mean tough guy ways. Like me kicking him out was a right thing to do just too teach him a lesson? It hurts me to do it but i felt like i had no choice.

[RockRose]

dremarie,  I think it's good that you're maturing.  I don't know much about your relationship,  but since you have a history of light physical combat with each other,  and now you're trying to change that dynamic,  chances are pretty good that you'll be successful.

Couples need to learn the skill of arguing lovingly and without physical or verbal punches.  It's a skill you develop through watching successful couples or reading.

I'd recommend The Care and Feeding of Marriage by Dr. Laura Schlessinger.

Best wishes.  You're on the right track.

[dremarie13]

Thanks for the feedback ladies

[janellemassy]

I would have kicked him to the curb the first time he got physical with me. U deff did the right thing. There is no excuse for him to do tht

[Laurissanoelani]

Yup ! Right thing to do !!

[BbyV]

I hope he knows that the baby can hear that fighting. Not good. If a man physically or verbally abused me, more then once..... There would be no way I would stay with him. That's just me though.

[mommaDof3]

It was absolutely the right thing to do. He's the one that seems to be everything he's calling you. Honestly,  I wouldn't let him back.  Stand your ground and do what's best for you and baby. Good luck.

[shelbalou]

Just remember what's best for your baby. Him throwing books at you especially while you're pregnant shows he is dangerous and imagine what he could do to a child if he got angry. Plus it would set a terrible example to your child thinking yelling and throwing things or hitting a woman was okay. He doesn't seem ready to be a father and even though it hurts kicking him out your baby is more important.