am i being too overproctective?

[bonnie_84]

So my mil has been getting on my nerves since we told her we were expecting and even more now since its a boy but yesterday she told me she had another dream she keeps having dreams about her and my son but yesterday she told me she had a dream she was breastfeeding my son I felt pissed and disgusted honestly I was like no that will never happen and I feel like I can't trust ever leaving my son with her am I exaggerating a bit? She thinks she will probly babysit but honestly I don't see myself leaving my son with her plus she has 4 cats in her home its a small apartment and they're inside cats theres always cat hair everywhere!

[keaanddan03]

Accepting donated breast milk and feeding it to your baby via bottle because you cannot produce milk is one thing. Having your mother in law dream and tell you about breastfeeding your unborn child is creepy. She is grandma not the soon to be mom. There should be boundrys!

[jjolfert]

Though I might be creeped out a bit if this happened to me, but the comments about breastfeeding in general are bugging me. Breastfeeding is not gross or sexual in any way and it is not incestual for you husbands sister to have breastfed him. Breastmilk is best for baby and you do what you have to do. I donated pumped milk to someone I know because she had trouble the first few weeks. I don't think that is weird at all. Baby's don't know. Neither can they remember. I'm not saying she should breastfeed your baby but I agree with @susamor that she is likely just remembering how it was for her and feeling nostalgic.

[keaanddan03]

This sounds like a movie made for Lifetime!!!! Please run, run very fast!!! I'm kidding. But seriously that is creepy.... maybe just slowly start distancing yourself from her. Im afraid it could only get worse...

[Mummy2bex]

Oh my good lord that is weird!! I know what you mean about mil's! Mine is totally weird too and keeps saying how she's going to have my son all the time ect and she's coming to the birth, no she's not, my partner and my mother is! And nor is she having my son alone as my partners brother has a 3 year old girl and my mil is so lazy and I often find the little girl secretly asking me to get her food because my mil is so god dam lazy and never listens to the poor child because she's ALWAYS drinking booze and has like 2 bottles a night and gets hammered! I think those dreams your mil is having is totally weird and the fact that she told you is even more sickening, that's a disgusting dream to have and she should know this and shouldn't be telling you stuff like that, she should keep her disturbing thoughts to herself, she must have something wrong with her to not know that she shouldn't tell you that! If she carries on with her weird ways and says something like that just say 'Ew that's disgusting' and if she questions why just say 'well I'd rather not imagine my son feeding from your breasts, he's my son and that's gross' Oh god no, hope he stops all this weird stuff hun xx

[kHz721]

Woah definitely don't let her alone with your baby. Read what you are saying...... That **** is actually incest and if it wasn't (which in some cases its not) then you wouldn't be here posting these questions.
OK?

Trust tour maternal instincts and ONLY have visits when your there. / in public.
Xx may god be with you

[nellila]

Sounds like your MIL needs counseling for apparent unresolved issues she has from her own motherhood experiences. It's your baby and your right to speak up. The whole situation with his family is just weird and borderline incestuous. I know I would never be cool with any other woman showing their breasts or trying to breastfeed my child.