am i being too overproctective?

[bonnie_84]

So my mil has been getting on my nerves since we told her we were expecting and even more now since its a boy but yesterday she told me she had another dream she keeps having dreams about her and my son but yesterday she told me she had a dream she was breastfeeding my son I felt pissed and disgusted honestly I was like no that will never happen and I feel like I can't trust ever leaving my son with her am I exaggerating a bit? She thinks she will probly babysit but honestly I don't see myself leaving my son with her plus she has 4 cats in her home its a small apartment and they're inside cats theres always cat hair everywhere!

[mommyof2Nahalf]

It almost sounds like she wants your son to be hers. That's really strange to me.

[bonnie_84]

That's exactly how I feel like she wants my son to be hers

[vanessaC831]

Um. That's weird. No. That's your baby not hers. I can see where u are coming from. My bfs mom calls my baby,  "her baby" , " how's my baby doing?!" Doesn't even ask how I am doing... Lol it bugs me but if I was in ur situation I think it would make me so uncomfortable that I would tell her to stop talking and keep her dreams to herself.

[AprilBabe26]

Do we have the same Mil?? I'm standing my ground, there is no way in hell she will ever be left alone with my child, there are seriously too many reasons to list but to put it simply she's mentally unstable, not exaggerating. Don't know that yours is as bad but if you're uncomfortable, there's a problem. Never do anything you're uncomfortable with when it comes to your kids.

[mychellefemme]

Heck no. Nobody's boob would be in my babies mouth. It was a beautiful dream??? It was a weird dream. Don't mean to sound so harsh to your mil but that would bug me out. And cat litter could be dangerous to babies. They track it around on their feet. Even though cats are usually clean pets, you have to clean behind them also.

[susamor]

You know, my mil never had a dream like that but when she held my baby, she seemed to be reliving her motherhood experience with my husband when he was a newborn. At one point i wondered if she would ever be capable of going that far (breastfeeding). I think thats what's going on with your mil. She is overjoyed and subconsciously is reliving her days with her son through your baby. I think that dream is more symbolic than telling that she would do that. If you can't trust her however then monitored visits are in order. I have found needles in the couch pillows or just lying around on tables or the floor at my mil house and when i see that i tell myself, nope! My kids would not be in a safe environment left here alone. So i go over with my husband and baby and check for hazards. You could probably ask her to vacuum or clean cat hairs off area where baby will be at and definitely let her know you don't feel comfortable with your baby being near the cats. I don't know why but it is a huge deal for in laws and blood relatives to have the baby actually visit at their home. Ask her to put them away just until your baby is a little older. But if thats too much try to keep the visits at your place or out at a public place :) good luck!