completely heart broken. <\3 <\3

[mommyof42015]

Just found out that my husband had an affair With someone fourth of July. I don't know if I should believe the person because she hates me because she wants my husband. I'm 13 weeks pregnant and 3 other little children. Normally when something is said about my husband it's true. I hope to go not because I want my marriage to work. If any of you ladies have been through this how and what did you to get through this heart breaking news.

[specialmom]

Okay, so here is an idea.  I would get a legal document that states that he will remain faithful.  If not . . .   then something of great value to him is turned over to you.  House, boat, car, truck, coin collection, 401 K, savings, etc.  Whatever he has that he loves, it's yours if he cheats again.  

And I would insist that he go through therapy with you if he wants to be with you.  

There is something very wrong with a man that cheats once a year like that.  What triggers it?  And why cant he eliminate the triggers to curtail the cheating?  This is where he needs to go if he is doing this and doesn't want to or ruin his family.

Can you stay with him still?  Sometimes it gets to the point that one can't get past it.  YOu and only you can decide when you've reached that point and no one would blame you for being there now.  But that is really what yOU have to figure out hon.  peace

[mommyof42015]

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[mommyof42015]

@specialmom he says he loves and he doesn't want me to be with anyone else because I'm his true love. But then he says that we had vows and he cherishes them. How? Ya know. If you cherished them you wouldn't be cheating on me.

[coryreply719]

I'm so sorry you're going through all of this. Has he ever gone to counseling to deal with his stuff?

[Cheyenne__19]

Get rid of him
He's no good if he cheats on you!

[specialmom]

Ugh, this is terrible.  Again, so very sorry to hear that.  I think that you have to get tough here.  The thing is, so far, you've just taken it so what motivation does he have to change?  What does he value most materially?/  Answer that and then I'll go on.  

[mommyof42015]

Then on top of everything my husband and this girl didn't us protection. I really wish I knew what to do. :'(

[mommyof42015]

@Specialmom he said there was a lot of drinking that night but he also said he wasn't going to use that an accuse. Yes he has cheated every summer for the last 5 years! We have been going to marriage Counseling and I told him we will have to go a couple times a week to fix this. The girl has tried getting ahold of him trying to go home with him but he has denied her. Which I'm very happy about. We have been Married for 3 years in December and together for 5 years. I am tired of being hurt but I'm love him more then I have anyone else. Other then my daughters.

But the person that told me told another person the only reason she told me is because is crazy and unstable and She just wanted to hurt me. Well yes hurt me but I still have a reason to smile.

[specialmom]

Oh gosh, I'm so sorry to hear this.  Infidelity just hurts to the core.  Are you two going to try to work it out?  Has he cheated before?  And how and why does he say this happened?  

[Alove21]

Ask her something personal about him
Body marks things about his penis

[hellojojo2200]

I wouldnt beleive her..unless u have solid proof...people will say some messed uo stuff..and lots of times its not true..especially if shr dosnt luke u and is jealous of ur relationship...

[mommyof42015]

To all the ladies that are dealing with the same. I'm so sorry you guys have to deal with it. It's so hard.i hope the best for each one of you guys. :)

[mommyof42015]

Thanks ladies. And yes this morning he came clean about everything. I'm completely heart broken. Our oldest daughter keeps asking me "Mommy why are you so sad?" I'm so lost on what to do. Because this isn't his first time. He does it every summer with different girls. Ugg. :'(

[Cheyenne__19]

There's so many home wrecking w.hores out there who want what they can't have ..  I wouldn't believe this girl until you've seen / know proof.
don't let this woman take away you're happiness when you don't even know if it's for certain.
Eventually the truth always comes out .. so until then .. I wish you the best, good luck sweetie ❤️

[lennybby]

That's the hardest thing when you want to work things out but then he's not helping .. I say don't believe it until u have proof and remember man will always be man and you have to deal with that if u love him unless it makes u too unhappy .. go for w.e makes u happy the most

[mommyinfebruary]

Just found out tonight my bf is cheating on me. It's a very terrible feeling, I was insecure before but now it's worse n I also have been depressed about my friends no longer talking to me bc I'm pregnant. Feelings pretty down tonight.

[Jessika20]

Have you tried to speak with him about it? If not I would talk to him an let him explain what is going on. You never know she could be trying to ruin your marriage.

[october22_]

Shoot. My ex cheated on me and got another girl pregnant.  That hurted me for awhile. Now he's trying to crawl back these men I swear....

[iLovekjoy2]

Have you asked him about it yet? See what he has to say first and go from there. I've dealt with a cheater before and all they do is lie. Most men won't admit to cheating. If he's showing signs then that may be a red flag! I hope everything works out for you!

[sammy1921]

Sweetie I think you should listen to your heart if you have 3 other kids with him why would he cheat now I thought my husband was cheating but I asked him and him family everyone told me he wasn't just follow your heart.

[sloanzon1027]

Don't believe her not until you hear it from your husband. If you really want to work it out... Actually no if you both really want to work it out he must change for the sake of everyone. If he loves you he will and if he don't,  rt hats up to you now. Don't stress urself momma. Its not easy and I know it does hurt but if he's willing to change give him second chance. Don't believe that ***** not until u hear it from our husband or u have a proof that he really did

[mommaKatxx]

I'm actually dealing with a husband right now who's hiding things from me.. And just keeping secrets. Idk how to deal with it. I am just so mad around him.. Or anything. :( I'm sorry your husbands a jerk..... I'd kick that's girls fat.... You know. Lol

[mommyof42015]

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