baby momma drama....

[Jr23861]

Ok so what do u think...
My bf has a son with another lady and she won't let him go to his bday if I go.. i mean he will eventually be part of my life too. He wants to go which is fine but I feel like this is stupid.  

[specialmom]

It's understandably frustrating.  Sorry it is like this.  I don't know the history of how long they've been broken up or why and how much they communicate now.  I do think it is tricky when you have someone in your life and then they are gone with someone else.  It is just then odd to have that person coming back to your events WITH the new person.  eventually she will have to get used to it especially if you two marry and are long term.  Because ultimately, it's about the son.  His feelings and how he feels about his dad is most important and adults have to keep their feelings out of it.

BUT, you dodged a bullet.  Have you ever been to a Chuck E Cheese birthday party?  Oh boy.  Avoid it ANY time you can.  Loud and chaotic!!  LOL

[Jr23861]

I mean I told him I didn't care.  He went today it's at Chuck E Cheese So it's not at her house. I just don't understand she never let's him see him. And she says I'm not allowed to see him. I partly feel like she's just trying to steal him back. But I know he's mine lol. I'm not starting any drama with anyone I just wanted to hear others opinions on this situation. .

[specialmom]

Well, if you are a girlfriend and this party is at her house, I get it.  Things evolve and at some point, yes, you'll be a part of things but in her mind, you aren't there yet.

There is a couple in a sports circle of my oldest son that divorced.  I can't tell you how uncomfortable it was when the male half brought a new girlfriend to a social function as no one was prepared for it including his own child.  It just wasn't time yet for the other woman to come to the event that the two of them used to go to together.  

this is probably hard to understand when you are in that position though.  I would be the bigger person and let him go enjoy his son's party without bringing your own hurt feelings or drama to the situation.  You contribute to drama when you are hurt you aren't invited to the other woman's home.  I mean, let's be honest, if he broke off with you and was with a new, pregnant girlfriend . . .   would you love them to come to your kid's party?  
That's always a little awkward for a bit.  

So, rise above, put yourself in her shoes, and find something to do for the afternoon while your boyfriend celebrates his kid's birthday.  good luck

[LyakGarcia]

^^^true, and sadly that'type' of women will never change, youll be free of drama when the kid is old enough to make his own decisions,  im sorry you have to go thru this just remember you needvto be the better person and how your mother raised you, to be a lady (that line kills the f.*****.es!) Lol

[Kynsmoms]

one word "jealousy" females do the most nd try to keep kids away if the person has moved on and they haven't

[Nicky53014]

Some women are ignorant. Messy situation man